|I had a rough few days.
As I watch the world implode, the virus surge, the markets plunge — my doctor tells me I need cataract surgery. Anything with the eyes terrifies me.
My head fills with worse case scenarios. I fall into a very dark place, unable to find my way out.
Then I remember what A Course in Miracles calls “the most important concept that exists in the universe—”the Law of Cause and Effect.”
The Course explains this law very differently from the world’s more generally accepted Newtonian explanation.
Am I the only one feeling this way?
Yes, the protests—peaceful or not—have led to incredible changes. Companies are hiring more blacks. Communities are implementing radical police reforms. The shares in black-owned businesses are soaring.
But to create true and lasting equality, we must look beyond the external. To change the collective, we need to transform the individual.
I say this from experience.
I came of age during Women’s Lib. Enraged by rampant discrimination, we took to the streets, burning our bras, demanding gender equality. And lo and behold, the workplace opened its doors, albeit a crack. The banks gave us credit cards without requiring a man’s signature.
I just read that award-winning Maya Angelou, after publishing her 11th book, thought to herself: “Uh-oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody.”
Can you imagine Maya Angelo feeling like fraud!! But looking back, I think of all the courageous, confident, highly successful women I’ve interviewed who told me they still felt like a fraud long after their careers were flourishing.
Sadly, the imposter syndrome is epidemic among women, even the most successful ones. In Neuroscience, I found a possible explanation as to why. Despite their achievements, these women never rewired their old belief systems.
They didn’t prepare themselves mentally as they pushed themselves physically. Because they hadn’t changed their thoughts, their brains remained wired to see only the past.
Their low self-image hadn’t caught up with their incredible successes. Their old neuropathways still dictated their current perceptions.
The moral of this story: before you focus on changing your behavior, you must transform the causes of that behavior—your thoughts and beliefs.
What thoughts and behaviors could you begin to rewire for success? Leave me a comment below.
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That can feel scary. Indeed, uncertainty is frightening. But what if the current crises is not to be feared? What if we welcomed it as a much-needed wake-up call?
I’m reminded of a 2019 Ted Talk by Ashweetha Shetty. Though her subject was education, her words feel eerily prophetic.
“All of us are born into a reality we blindly accept,” she said, “until something awakens us and a new world opens up.”
I’m wondering if that’s what’s happening now. “Something” (Spirit. perhaps) is trying to awaken us to other possibilities—possibilities other than the reality we’ve “blindly accepted.”
What if we all used this time in isolation to imagine the new normal we’d love to create? What if we reimagine a future unlike the past?
Think about the life you crave, not the one you live. Consider the legacy you wish to leave. Allow your imagination to run wild, to dream audaciously. Make it fun, as if you’re a child playing make-believe.
Notice if your thoughts tell you it’s not practical or even plausible. Know that’s your brain defaulting to old neuropathways. Resist the urge to acquiesce.
Instead, trust this is your intended future yearning to emerge. Allow the ideas to sink into your psyche. Adopt them as your new story.
Repeat this story often (especially when tempted to tell your old one). Focus on it in meditation. Visualize it as you fall asleep.
Rest assured. This new story is not some grandiose tale told by your insecure Ego, but guidance from your loving Soul, urging you to step into your Greatness, shining your light in a world steeped in darkness.
Tell me about your new normal—the one you’d love to start living. Share in the comments below as if it’s already a reality.
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*Adapted from my upcoming book: Rewire for Wealth
I’m turning to A Course in Miracles (ACIM) a lot more these days.
As many of you know, ACIM is a spiritual text that calls itself “a course in mind training,” and declares its sole purpose is “to restore awareness of the power of the mind.”
I may not be able to control the frightening unfolding of current events. But I can use the power of my mind to control how I react to them.
“The only way to make prudent decisions in a plunging market”, my favorite WSJ columnist, Jason Zweig, recently advised, “is by creating a circle of calm around yourself.”Amen to that!
How do you train your mind to “create a circle of calm?” You must understand what ACIM calls “the most important concept that exists in the universe:” The Law of Cause and Effect.
ACIM (as well as neuroscience, quantum physics and many spiritual teachings like Buddhism) explains this law very differently from the more generally accepted Newtonian version.
To the world, a cause is an external incident which produces an internal effect. The market crashes (cause) and you panic (effect). But this view is very disempowering. Blaming something or someone else for ‘making’ you unhappy or fearful turns you into a victim.
According to ACIM, nothing ‘out there’ has anything to do with you feeling happy or upset. Your thoughts are always the cause. If you want to change the effect (your experience)—greater abundance, more happiness, increased peace of mind—you must first change the cause (your thoughts).
Mind training is about far more than positive thinking. It requires you to shift the source of your feelings from the world out there and point your finger where it belongs—your own mind.
Or as ACIM puts it: “Seek not to change the world, but choose to change your mind about the world.”
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What thoughts do you need to change for greater peace of mind? Leave me a comment below.
Don’t you just love the media? First they warn you: Don’t Panic. Then they give you all these reasons to panic.
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This formula—combining neuroscience, psychology and spirituality—is based on the premise that nothing ‘out there’ has anything to do with you feeling happy or upset. Your thoughts are always the cause.
If you want to change the effect (your experience)—more money, greater peace, less stress, more success—you must first change the cause (your thoughts). Who you are, what you do, and the life you have comes from what you think.
As A Course in Miracles explains: “The world you see does nothing. It has no effects at all. It merely represents your thoughts. And it will change entirely as you elect to change your mind”.
And Albert Einstein echoed: “The world we have created is a product of our way of thinking.”
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My Personal Experience in Rewiring
I’m making myself crazy. I’ve been doing it for months. Ever since I decided I was ready to birth my next book. In a fit of over-zealous optimism, I gave myself till summer’s end to finish the proposal.
Well, summer is quickly coming to a close. My proposal, however, is nowhere near completion. Not even close. I’ve been beating myself up—unmercifully—for missing my goal.
I’m a big believer in setting deadlines. They’re terrific tools for staying on track. But, I’m recognizing, there’s a major downside to made-up deadlines.
The trouble comes when I don’t meet them. Rather than rethink the timing, I scold myself severely for screwing up.
Oh the absurdity of artificial deadlines! Yet, on reflection, I realize I’ve done this my whole life.
In fact, I suddenly realize, it’s actually a habit that’s been hardwired in my brain. And the very thing I’m writing my book about—3 steps to rewiring the brain—is precisely what I need to put into practice. Yes, there’s hope!!!
I’ve already begun the 1st Step: Recognize. I clearly see that chastising myself for falling short of an arbitrary deadline is unhealthy, unproductive and habitual. Sure, deadlines can be motivating. But self-flagellation is no way to foster creativity.
Now, the 2nd step, Reframe. I need to see this differently. Looking back, I realize (big sigh!) proposals always got written, projects always got completed…just not on my schedule. Instead of defying the current, what if I deferred to Divine timing? Only in hind sight can I possibly know what’s actually in my own best interest.
Finally the 3rd step, Respond Differently. I make a promise to myself. From now on, if I’m feeling stuck, if doors stay closed, if nothing flows freely and it ceases to be fun, I’m viewing these as indicators that it’s time to surrender and reassess rather than doggedly pursue a rigid decision.
The essence of my rewiring experience boils down to this: I’d rather live with the tranquility that comes from trusting a Higher Power than the stress of self-imposed pressure.
Are you still pursuing a goal that’s past its “expiration date”? Why? Leave a comment below.
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Once a woman achieves financial stability, no longer struggling to make ends meet, something within her dramatically changes…though she’s rarely aware it’s happening.
Her brain, no longer tasked with simply surviving, is ready to rewire itself.
She finds herself yearning for Greatness, no longer satisfied with mediocrity.
She deeply desires to create wealth, not for its own sake, but for its original meaning—well-being.
She strives for power, not to appease or dominate others, but to have dominion over herself.
She searches for significance, not by being the best or making the most, but by doing what God put her on earth to do.
Rewiring, however, requires tremendous effort. She must intentionally respond differently, not habitually, consciously choosing behaviors that permit her to thrive…rather than merely survive.
Yet, unless she’s vigilant, her old neural connections will keep recreating ‘not enough’. She’ll unwittingly remain rooted in the hard-wired neuropathway offering the least resistance (otherwise known as her comfort zone).
I truly believe when enough women understand how to rewire their brains by taking the path of most resistance, building their wealth and claiming their power, a global transformation will occur.
We’ll have the values, visions, sensitivity and the resources needed to change this world, heal this planet.
This, I believe, is our essential legacy, our inherent destiny, our financial responsibility as women.
Tell me about the legacy you want to leave in the comments below.
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I remember a friend telling me that her son, a financial advisor, tried to explain some financial concept to her. “I want you to get this,” he insisted.
She listened intently but when he finished, she told me, “I hadn’t heard a word he said. I went into a haze. I felt so stupid. Why do I do this?”
I see this all the time. A woman attempts to take financial control but she’s suddenly struck by a sense of foreboding. It’s as if she’s entering a place she shouldn’t be and a voice in her head screams out: Danger! Keep Out! Immediately, she shuts down.
It wasn’t until I started studying Neuroscience that the reason for this pervasive reaction became clear. Women’s and men’s brains process financial (and other) information differently. Men see investing in the market as a challenge. Women see investing as a threat.
Our prehistoric brains were wired to ensure our safety and survival. Anytime we feel threatened, our rational brain shuts down, sending us into fight, flight or freeze mode.
This doesn’t apply only to beginners. I’ve had women who work in the financial industry or manage large budgets in their jobs, tell me, “I do this for a living, but my own finances are a mess.” If you’re in this boat, there is a way out. It’s not filling your head with more facts, but instead learning to rewire your brain.
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The class was titled “Women, Money and Power” and I took it over 30 years ago.
I had attended countless financial classes, read countless money books but this one class changed forever my relationship with money–and, much later, my approach to teaching it.
On the first day, I remember sitting in a circle, in the middle of which was a clump of white netting, like a bridal veil, flung carelessly on the floor.
The instructor walked over to the netting, scooped it up, and announced: “This is what we’re going to do in this class. We are going to lift the veils that cloud our understanding of money.”
Underneath the netting was the Wall Street Journal, which (ironically) I’d recently subscribed to. I couldn’t understand a word of it and I was about to find out why.
“To lift the veils,’ the instructor continued, “We have to get in touch with the decisions we’ve made about money, most of which were made early in life and are now unconscious. These decisions are like veils that get in the way of our financial understanding.”
She patted her head. “The more we can see in here, the more we can see out there.” She pointed to the newspaper.
The instructor was speaking from experience. Although she was the director of the University’s MBA program, had a degree in economics, and an extensive background in financial services, she had a long history of financial neglect in managing her own money.
“I had all the technical information to act in a responsible way, but I wasn’t doing it,” she told us. “I realized that I may have some deeper issues and I better start working on them.”
Reflecting back, I asked myself: Why does the mainstream, male dominated financial industry still takes a strictly intellectual, left brain approach?
Why don’t they get that, regardless of IQ, education or experience, many continue to behave in disturbingly irresponsible ways with money?
The industry focuses solely on changing behaviors. Yet our behaviors are not the problem. They are symptoms of something deeper. And we aren’t likely to find the solution “out there’, in a conventional finance class or book.
If you see yourself exhibiting self-sabotaging behavior, keep this in mind. While you’re learning the facts you also need to examine your blocks. While you’re exploring the difference between a stock and a bond, you also need to delve into your attitudes, beliefs and early messages about money.
Unless you do the inner work, shifting your behavior will be a constant struggle.
Have you done The Inner Work of Wealth? What early beliefs about money did you uncover? Leave me a comment below.
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