Life Lessons

The Downside of Personal Growth

Have you noticed that whenever you change, you’re sure to upset someone close to you? Usually someone who’s resisting moving forward themselves. It could be a spouse, a parent, or a friend.

It happened to me with my second husband. I was an aspiring journalist when we met, sorely underpaid, but with lots of free time. Three months after the wedding, I decided to focus on building a profitable business.

He didn’t like this ‘new me’ one bit. It eventually led to our divorce.

At first I was crushed. But when I started interviewing six-figure women for my second book, it hit me.

To go to the next level financially, I had to surround myself with people who were cheering me on, not trying to rein me in.

Where Success Hides

For years, whenever my daughters felt stuck or confused, they’d always call me for advice.

 “What are you most afraid to do?” I’d ask every time.

They’d tell me and inevitably I’d reply: “Then that’s exactly what you need to do next.”

They didn’t like my response, of course, but when they followed it, they always met with success.

Nowadays, they don’t even bother asking. They finally realized what every successful woman I’ve ever interviewed eventually figured out.

An Eye-Opening Exercise

Who am I? It’s one of life’s greatest mysteries. A question asked by countless seekers.

Determining the answer to that question can be daunting. Many of us have spent a lifetime hiding our real self from others.

Consequently, we’ve lost touch with who we really are. We’re left with a distorted self-image, based on all sorts of unconscious decisions we made about ourselves and life, probably made when we were very young.

These decisions have nothing to do with reality. Yet we go through life acting on these erroneous conclusions as if they were indisputable truths.

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Dare to Streeeeetch

The philosopher Soren Kierkegaard once declared, “To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily; to not dare is to lose one’s self.”

To achieve financial success, you must make a tough choice—stick with what’s doable or dare to take the more demanding route.

Basically, this is how the high earning game is played—stretching beyond comfortable to the seemingly impossible.

Almost always, stretching is preceded by the thought, “I can’t do that” or “it’s too scary.”

The High Earner’s Epiphany

I’ll never forget a conversation I once had with a former underearner. She told me that in every job she’d had, she found out she was underpaid and would always quit.

Finally, she was in a job she loved. Once again, she discovered she was making far less than a co-worker in the same position. But this time, she really didn’t want to leave.

Though terrified, she worked up the nerve and asked her boss for a raise. 

“Sure” he said, without missing a beat.

At that moment, she had a stunning realization. I’ve come to call it the High Earners Epiphany. 

Problems? Show Some Gratitude!

People often ask me what were the biggest surprises I had when interviewing successful women. This is definitely one.

I never expected how many told me they were actually grateful for past tribulations.

In fact, most admitted, they might never have succeeded had they not been challenged. They considered their past problems an asset and, even more, they appreciated themselves for tackling them head on.

Always Say Yes!

Just say yesWhether it’s to your heart’s desire or your boss’s request.

So what if you don’t know what you’re doing.

The quickest way to become a High Earner is not to wait until all bases are covered or for opportunities to fall at your feet, but to go out and consciously seek them.

There’s only one way to reach those higher levels—you go as far as you can with all thayou’ve got, and when you fall down, you pick yourself up and keep right on going.

Thank You!

If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you…that will be enough. ~~Meister Eckhart

Today, in the spirit of Thanksgiving and a 13th century mystic, I’m taking this opportunity to say Thank You…

…to all of you who are reading this blog, even if it’s the only time you ever do, I truly appreciate you reading it today.

…to everyone who’s ever written to tell me how my work has impacted your life, you have no idea how your words have impacted mine. In fact, I have printed out and saved every one of your notes and emails.

…to anyone who’s bought my books and perhaps passed it onto a friend, this means more to me than you’ll ever know.

…to those of you who’ve joined my groups or signed up for coaching, I’m endlessly grateful you trusted me to guide you, while teaching me to be a better guide.

Don’t Believe You Can Make More Money? Doesn’t Matter!

Want to know an important secret to making more money? Certainty, or lack of it, is inconsequential.

You don’t need to be convinced you can do it. You need only be open and receptive to the possibility.

So many of high earners I interviewed, when the thought of making big money first crossed their minds, never really believed they could actually do it.

 Nor did they know precisely how they would add another zero or two. In fact, most hadn’t the vaguest idea.

Which is exactly how I, a chronic underearner, always felt. One of the most hopeful messages I learned from successful women is that we need not fully believe something is possible, much less have a full-blown plan firmly in place.

We just have to decide what we want and be willing to do whatever comes next.

Letting Go

Here’s a foolproof strategy for getting unstuck. You must let go of where you are to get to where you want to go.

Clinging to the security of the familiar ledge prevents us from discovering what awaits us in the future.

The ledges in our lives offer the illusion of safety, but in truth their only value is to keep us hanging.

These ledges take many forms, both concrete and intangible. They can look like unfulfilling jobs, unpleasant relationships, inappropriate goals, untrue beliefs, unhealthy habits, bottled-up emotions.

Every successful woman I interviewed who finally let go (as hard as it was), cited that single act as the springboard to higher earnings and happier times.

Meet Barbara Huson

When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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