|I had a rough few days.
As I watch the world implode, the virus surge, the markets plunge — my doctor tells me I need cataract surgery. Anything with the eyes terrifies me.
My head fills with worse case scenarios. I fall into a very dark place, unable to find my way out.
Then I remember what A Course in Miracles calls “the most important concept that exists in the universe—”the Law of Cause and Effect.”
The Course explains this law very differently from the world’s more generally accepted Newtonian explanation.
Am I the only one feeling this way?
Yes, the protests—peaceful or not—have led to incredible changes. Companies are hiring more blacks. Communities are implementing radical police reforms. The shares in black-owned businesses are soaring.
But to create true and lasting equality, we must look beyond the external. To change the collective, we need to transform the individual.
I say this from experience.
I came of age during Women’s Lib. Enraged by rampant discrimination, we took to the streets, burning our bras, demanding gender equality. And lo and behold, the workplace opened its doors, albeit a crack. The banks gave us credit cards without requiring a man’s signature.
I’ve been struggling with the idea of Acceptance lately. Allowing life to unfold at its own pace, or as A Course in Miracles says: “Let it be what it is.”
I know that serenity comes from accepting what I cannot change.
Yet I yearn to return to normality. I deeply miss those days I could shop without a mask, do hot yoga in my favorite studio, hang out with friends, hug them goodbye.
But I also yearn for serenity amidst all the uncertainty. I feel conflicted, confused. Then I flash back to a memory.
Ten years ago, a coach bluntly told me: “You’re too into doing, Barbara. You need time for just being.” I was depleted, burned out and knew she was right.
I cleared my calendar, eliminated all but the essentials and created space for self-reflection. My mantra was “I surrender and receive.”
I believe this is exactly what Covid-19 is calling us to do—Surrender and Receive. Surrender need not be passive but can be highly productive.
Believe me, I had no idea at the time that a whole new body of work was living inside me. By slowing down and tuning in, I “downloaded” what would become my next book, Sacred Success.
The “downloads” came as I asked myself a series of questions. I’m happy to share them with you. The first question most people ask themselves, when facing uncertainty, is ‘what should I do?’ Actually, that’s the last question to pose.
The first question to ask is: What do I need to let go of? Letting go, especially of what causes unhappiness or ceases to serve you, creates space for better to come. How do you know what needs to go? It’s probably that which you’re most afraid to release.
The next question to ask is: What do I want? This helped me get in touch with my deepest desires rather than the ‘shoulds’ and ‘ought’s” that I often gave into. I took a deep dive into my Soul’s wisdom by asking myself these 4 questions:
- If I knew I had only 6 months to live, where would I be? Who would I be with? What would I be doing?
- If I died today, what would be left unlived?
- If nothing changes, not one thing, what would my life look like in 5 years?
- If I was on my death bed, how would I most want to be remembered?
The final question to ask is: “What should I do next?” Follow the advice of artist Vincent Van Gogh: “If you hear a voice within you say, ‘you cannot paint’, by all means paint and the voice will be silenced.”
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I’m turning to A Course in Miracles (ACIM) a lot more these days.
As many of you know, ACIM is a spiritual text that calls itself “a course in mind training,” and declares its sole purpose is “to restore awareness of the power of the mind.”
I may not be able to control the frightening unfolding of current events. But I can use the power of my mind to control how I react to them.
“The only way to make prudent decisions in a plunging market”, my favorite WSJ columnist, Jason Zweig, recently advised, “is by creating a circle of calm around yourself.”Amen to that!
How do you train your mind to “create a circle of calm?” You must understand what ACIM calls “the most important concept that exists in the universe:” The Law of Cause and Effect.
ACIM (as well as neuroscience, quantum physics and many spiritual teachings like Buddhism) explains this law very differently from the more generally accepted Newtonian version.
To the world, a cause is an external incident which produces an internal effect. The market crashes (cause) and you panic (effect). But this view is very disempowering. Blaming something or someone else for ‘making’ you unhappy or fearful turns you into a victim.
According to ACIM, nothing ‘out there’ has anything to do with you feeling happy or upset. Your thoughts are always the cause. If you want to change the effect (your experience)—greater abundance, more happiness, increased peace of mind—you must first change the cause (your thoughts).
Mind training is about far more than positive thinking. It requires you to shift the source of your feelings from the world out there and point your finger where it belongs—your own mind.
Or as ACIM puts it: “Seek not to change the world, but choose to change your mind about the world.”
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What thoughts do you need to change for greater peace of mind? Leave me a comment below.
It’s hard not to freak out these days. Between the rapidly spreading coronavirus and the deeply plunging markets, how’s a girl supposed to stay positive and avoid panicking?
I’ve been asking myself that question a lot. Then I found a way to quiet my anxiety. And I’m excited to share it with you.
It’s called Selective Attention. You focus on what inspires you and stop dwelling on what scares you.
Easier said than done, right? Which is exactly what I thought…until I remembered the Receiving Journals I handed out at my Sacred Success retreats.
Keeping a Receiving Journal serves the same purpose as tracking your spending. But instead of increasing your awareness of money going out, a Receiving Journal forces you to face all the abundance flowing in.
As A Course in Miracles tells us: “Every day a thousand treasures come to me with every passing moment.” The problem, however, we fail to notice those numerous treasures, especially when fear is ever-present.
To fully access the power of a Receiving Journal, you must understand this: everything that happens is a gift for the receiver, whether it feels ‘good’ or ‘bad.’ The challenge, of course, is to find the treasure in what may seem unpleasant. But even the good stuff can be challenging to receive.
For example, I started noticing how often I’d gloss over expressions of praise or appreciation, without fully taking in the words. So I started listing, in my journal, every compliment I got.
And when I had a tiff with my husband, I actually stopped to figure out the gift. I not only discovered a pattern I was repeating that had messed up other relationships, but it led to the most loving discussion. This went in my journal too.
It’s only been a few days, but I feel a big difference. I’m actually happier, more loving. Maybe that’s what a Receiving Journal is all about. Not just expanding our ability to receive, but actually increasing our capacity to love.
After all, says the Course, love is the only antidote for fear. “Any attempt to master fear is useless. The true resolution rests entirely on mastery through love.”
Are you open to receiving or do you resist? Leave me a comment below.
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Whenever life gets hard, doors won’t open, nothing goes right—I know I need to ask myself a question. Where am I out of integrity?
The word integrity comes from a Latin root, meaning wholeness or entirety.
Whenever you’re not asking for what you want, spending money you don’t have, or your behavior is out of synch with your most cherished values and highest aspirations, you’re giving away your power, sabotaging your success.
Conversely, you take your power back by identifying, verbalizing and living your truth, moment by moment by moment.
Or, as A Course in Miracles puts it: “there is nothing you say that contradicts what you think or do.”
Believe me, it’s as easy to slip out of integrity as it is for a dieter to slip in extra calories, never realizing that’s what you’re doing.
But life will show you. It always does.
And when it does, try asking yourself: Where am I out of integrity? Where am I living a lie? As soon as you find the answer and course correct, I guarantee, the situation miraculously shifts.
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Sometimes change comes quietly, unexpectedly, when everything lines up perfectly. Tiny miracles, cosmic winks, unmistakable signs that a Higher Power is orchestrating the whole thing. That’s exactly what happened for me last weekend.
It all began at a Seattle Lady Bosses event, an amazing gathering of women entrepreneurs. Seated in small groups, we were asked to briefly introduce ourselves. When my turn came, I said, “I’m Barbara Huson, a Wealth Coach.”
Then something surprising happened. That title didn’t feel right, like a dress that no longer fit.
“Wait!” I said, without a clue what was coming next. “What I really am is a Financial Therapist.”
I’d never used those words before! Yet it felt like a moment of self-revelation, a declaration of a deep-seated truth.
I’ve always called myself a coach. Yet I was trained as a psychotherapist. My true passion is diving in deep with a financially challenged client, tunneling through the darkness to find the light, revealing and removing what’s blocking her from creating the wealth she desires, the life she deserves and the power she’s denied.
I also love talking about investing, creating wealth. But number crunching…not so much. I guess I assumed I had to do it as part of the package.
Meanwhile, sitting next to me is Linda Lingo, a ReWire client, Wealth Connection member, a CPA and financial coach for women. I’d had my eye on Linda for years, impressed with her knowledgeable (and compassionate) responses to financial questions from others on our calls.
And there she was, having just flown in from California. Divine intervention at its finest. The next day, we met. We talked. We got excited. And a few days later, we signed an agreement.
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Now I can focus on what I do best: Financial Therapy. Truly a miracle!
Have you experienced any unexpected miracles lately? I’d love to hear about it. Leave me a comment below.
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“There is another way of looking at the world.” When I read this lesson from A Course in Miracles (ACIM), I knew I had to share it with you. What I’m really sharing is the profound, but simple, secret to creating miracles AND rewiring your brain.
The secret is this: whenever you’re upset, disturbed or challenged, try consciously changing, or reframing, the way you interpret an event. In other words, firmly say to yourself: “There must be another way of seeing this.”
Admittedly, reframing can be difficult. I’ve found three techniques that have helped me shift my perception—and, as I’ve only recently understood—reprogram my unhealthy beliefs and behaviors into much healthier ones (which, in itself, is a miracle).
One technique is what psychologists call Selective Attention—consciously selecting one thing to concentrate on while ignoring everything else. The absence of attention to what you don’t want weakens maladaptive neuropathways. For example, instead of constantly retelling your old story, talk only about your dreams and desires.
Another technique, first introduced by Carl Jung, is Shadow Work. When you don’t like or can’t accept parts of yourself, you disown those traits and project them onto another. As I wrote in my first book, Prince Charming is simply a projection of the powerful, responsible part you refuse to acknowledge in yourself. When you take back your projections, you come to know the truth of who you really are.
The third, as described in ACIM, is understanding The Therapeutic Value of Fear. Fear, discomfort or pain, the Course explains “is aroused only to bring the need for correction forcibly into awareness.” For our prehistoric ancestors, fear alerted them to real and ever present danger. But nowadays, fear is alerting you that you’re listening to Ego and you need to course correct by tuning into your Soul.
In my experience, the simple act of seeing things differently has been a game changer.
How about you? I’d love to hear about your experience with reframing.
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