Getting Out Of Your Own Way

Written by Barbara Huson

Greatness takes guts. No doubt about it. Sure, Shakespeare implored us: “Don’t be afraid of Greatness.” But here I was, on Day 3 of my retreat, seriously scared. From the moment I woke up, fear began to wrap around me like a second skin, seeping into my pores, coursing through my veins, constricting my chest with its vise-like grip.

Why was I so afraid, I wondered? I spent the last two days delightfully splashing around in this new Call to Greatness. Now, suddenly, I wake up drowning in fear.

In a split second, it made perfect sense.

The Call to Greatness meant I was being summoned to a higher level. I had grown very comfortable teaching women how to make more money and manage it wisely. I had the ‘overcoming’ stuff down pat. But going to the next level of ‘becoming’ (whatever that means!!!) was brand new territory.

I suspected what that meant for me personally – I had to come out of the closet, revealing and owning my value, my brilliance, my power, my exceptional wisdom and my unique talents.

The instant I wrote that last sentence, my tummy did a belly flop. Is everyone going to think I’m arrogant (a big fear of mine!)? Or even worse, will the world think I’m really just faking it? My brilliance is BS, my talents are, well… ordinary?

Somewhere during the day, I made a decision. This is a risk I’m willing to take. I’m going for Greatness, and taking every woman I possibly can with me. I am convinced the world desperately needs women to step up to the plate and into their power, to own their Greatness in the grandest way.

Just as I write this, the damndest thing happened. I get an email from my friend Suzy. “I read this and thought of you,” she said, sending me a quote from Marianne Williamson. The synchronicity was inescapable!!!

“It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves,

“Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?”

Actually, who are you not to be?

YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It is not just some of us; it is in everyone.

And as we let our light shine we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson

There’s no doubt in my mind – this a sign and a message, not just to me, but to everyone reading this blog!!!

Speaking of signs, be sure to read my next blog.

Barbara Stanny

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The Call to Greatness… Have you heard it yet?

Written by Barbara Huson

By mid morning of Day #1 of my retreat, I’d identified the culprit, why I was blah. For 3 years, I’ve been futilely chasing a financial goal. And I wasn’t shy about telling anyone who would listen. If you’ve heard me speak, you’ve heard me say; “My goal is to make millions, help millions, give millions“.

Lofty, I know. But I’ve always prided myself on setting lofty goals and usually achieving them. I often brag that I, a life-long underearner, began making six-figures before I even finished writing my book, “Secrets of Six-Figure Women”. So, it seemed like a no-brainer – I’d write my next book about women making millions. Now, 2 years, 20 interviews, and a string of rejections later, the book’s unwritten, my goal unmet.

I felt frustrated, powerless, and embarrassed. Here I was helping women make more money… and I was nowhere near my 7-figure goal. Even worse, I hadn’t a clue why or what to do about it.

Until that morning… when 3 words struck me like a lightning bolt; “Go for Greatness“. Those words came from somewhere very deep, from something very wise. I grabbed my journal, starting writing.

“Isn’t that what I really want – greatness? I’ve been so focused on achieving fame and fortune, making-millions-helping-millions, but those were goals from my ego. My soul has been begging for something very different. It wanted greatness.”

It just never occurred to me, until then, that there was a distinction. Now, I wondered, what is the difference between greatness and fame? The answer came quickly.

“Fame is the quest for external validation to fill an internal void. Seeking fame is like living on credit… a pretense, an illusion to hide lack and deprivation.

Greatness, on the other hand, is the pursuit of a meaningful, authentic life for your own bliss and the benefit of others.”

It was a Eureka! moment.

Yes, that’s what I crave. It’s not millions. It’s not fame. It’s Greatness! I’d been seeking fame and fortune to justify my worth. But what I genuinely craved were opportunities to fulfill my purpose, live my truth, and make a difference in the world. I still wanted to make more money. But the game had changed… and so had the rules. Yet until that moment, I never even realized it.

I had made a discovery some time back, never applying it to me. I saw that once a woman becomes financially secure and stable, she is no longer motivated by money. Once she has a profit motive firmly intact, financial success turns into a spiritual journey. This new journey is no longer fueled by increased earnings (though that may be a desired outcome). It is fueled by a search for significance, a deep desire to make one’s mark on the world.

That’s what had happened to me, and I didn’t even realize it. Making millions seemed the obvious next step. It felt impressive — it certainly was feeding my ego. What I didn’t realize — my soul was starving. Once I shifted my focus, the blahs vanished, my energy returned. I could almost hear my soul sigh in relief.

I had received the Call to Greatness. And I am convinced, without a shadow of a doubt, women all over the world are receiving the same call. Perhaps, you’re one of them. Perhaps, like me, you don’t quite understand what’s going on.

Let me explain what you may be experiencing. Symptoms of the Call for Greatness include: restlessness, feeling stuck, anxiety, yearning, frustration, or, like me, the ‘blahs’. These symptoms are indicator lights, sending a message; You’re ready to move into the New Game of Money. This new game is called Going for Greatness. The point is no longer overcoming anything. You’ve already done that. It’s now about becoming all you can be.

In my next blog, I’ll say more about Greatness in much greater depth. Stay tuned!

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The Guide To Greatness

Written by Barbara Huson

Day 2 of my retreat had me curled up on the cozy window seat, staring at the water, pondering what Greatness actually means. This was not something I’d given a lot of thought to in the past.

Still, I figured I should know. My father had achieved Greatness. Not because he co-founded a famous company. But because he made it possible for large numbers of people to get quality tax preparation for a fraction of the price. I grew up with Greatness. I saw it every day, living, breathing, expanding, succeeding. As I started reviewing what my father showed me, I came up with a formula for Achieving Greatness:

1. Greatness refuses to be limited or controlled in any way by fear. (Fear is to greatness what ants are to a picnic… annoying, inevitable, and best ignored)

2. Greatness follows ideas that come from seemingly nowhere.

3. Greatness doesn’t act alone. It has partners, collaborators, a team.

4. Greatness is humble, not to be confused with Grandiosity. Grandiosity comes from the ego and is; as A Course in Miracles tells us, “always a cover for despair.” Greatness is sourced from the soul and is always a desire to do what it came to earth to do.

5. Greatness sees the world as it’s playground and every problem as part of The Game… a lawsuit is no more serious that misplacing a stapler.

6. Greatness takes its mission (not itself) very seriously, and always puts that mission first.

7. Greatness truly enjoys Greatness, not just for itself, but for its positive effect on others.

8. Greatness is not out for money or fame. Fame may occur or not — it’s totally irrelevant. But money is mandatory… sufficient income is necessary to eliminate any distractions for achieving its goals.

9. Greatness isn’t perfect, and is more than willing not to be. Greatness feeds on self trust (the definition to self-trust: knowing you can clean up what you mess up!).

10. When pain enters Greatness, it’s meant to be a wake-up call.

11. Greatness is kind, but tough, and politely endures criticism. While Greatness doesn’t need be liked, it demands to be respected.

12. The Arc of Greatness involves many mistakes, failures, wrong turns… they are the steppingstones to Greatness.

13. Greatness is passion made manifest. The biggest pitfall to Greatness – doing what you should vs. what you love.

14. Greatness requires responsibility, rejects mediocrity, and resides in the unknown.

15. When Greatness dies, it doesn’t go away. Greatness always leaves behind witnesses.

Woody Allen had it right when he said: “The only thing standing between Greatness and me, is me.”

Coming next: Getting out of the way of Greatness.

Barbara Stanny

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The Retreat To Being…

Written by Barbara Huson

If you follow my tweets, you already know. I just returned from a 5 day retreat, to (as tweeted) “pause, get pampered, and ponder what’s next.”

I was bordering on burn out, and needed to get away. It wasn’t burn out in the normal sense… I wasn’t exhausted, depressed, or down on my work. I was just ‘blah’, as in: there’s no creative juice left in this orange… I was squeezed dry.

My coach, Martha Lynn Walker, told me what to do: “get away by yourself,” she said. “You’re too into ‘doing.’ You need time for ‘being.’” That was last Thursday.

You know how, when something is right, the seas seem to part? That’s what happened to me. I found the perfect spot within 2 hours driving distance. Unfortunately, it was booked solid. Magically, a room became available an hour later. Within 24 hours, I was unpacked, settled in, gazing at the water view, journal in hand… just ‘ being.’

My intention: to breakthrough my blahs… get my mojo back! I had no idea how… but as I always say; “when the intention is strong, the ‘how’ always shows up.”

Immediately, I had a realization. Well, it wasn’t really new… but I always ignored it. It was something I’ve long wanted to do, but couldn’t get myself to do it.

What I realized: I rarely blog about me. I rarely share my innermost thoughts or my personal journey… especially around money. Even though that’s the whole point of a blog, right? But I was scared, resistant. I’m great at writing other people’s stories or reporting facts and observations. Self exposure, however, felt scary, vulnerable.

Which made the next step obvious… I have to face my resistance by revealing myself. So that’s what I want to do, starting now.

I’m going to use the next couple of blogs to tell you about my retreat and my revelations. What’s more, I suspect what I learned about myself could inspire many of you. It certainly inspired me… I’m back to business, mojo intact.

Barbara Stanny

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5 Tips For Earning What You Really Deserve

Written by Barbara Huson

Want to make more money? Well, I’ve got the secret. And I’ll bet it’s not what you think.

It sure wasn’t what I expected when I interviewed hundreds of high earners for my books; Secrets of Six-Figure Women and Overcoming Underearning®. Very few of these highly successful women were driven by money, yet they still demanded to be well compensated because – and here’s the Big Secret – they felt they were worth it.

The good news is that it’s possible for all of us to build up our self worth. Here are some tips for pumping up your self-esteem along with your net worth:

1. Think Big, Then Think Even Bigger

What most of us do is unwittingly limit our earnings by lowering our expectations. Especially women. The idea is to think in terms of what you are worth, not just what you assume the market will bear.

2. Do Your Homework

One of the worst negotiating mistakes women make is picking a number out of the air that’s way too low. The smarter ones find out their market value by researching the going rates, then ask for more than is offered so they’ll have room to maneuver and negotiate.

3. Take the Initiative

Have tangible evidence of what you bring to the table. Maybe you saved your company x-amount of dollars or had an idea that generated so many sales. Every time you accept more responsibility, successfully complete a challenge or create positive changes, document it. Keeping records is an effective means of demonstrating your value to an organization.

4. Daily Affirmations – Act As If

Affirmations are positive statements expressed as if they’ve already happened. For example: “I have the confidence to ask for what I want” or
“I deserve more money in my life“. Write them down. Post them in full view. Say them out loud as often as possible. When you act as if you’re worth a lot, you’ll eventually convince yourself as well as others.

5. Challenge yourself in other areas

A stretch in any area of life has a ripple effect in other areas as well. If you can’t quite get yourself to volunteer for that tough assignment or ask for a raise, try signing up for an art class or running a marathon. Anything that puts you out of your comfort zone builds confidence and self-worth.

By practicing these tips, you’ll begin to notice a shift in how you feel about yourself. Making more money becomes not something you should do, but something you have to do – because you know in your heart you’re worth it.

Barbara Stanny

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It May Be Time To Let Go!

Written by Barbara Huson

Want to kick things up a notch (or 2 or 3) in your life? Ask yourself this: “What do I need to let go of?” Seriously. “Letting go” is a profound strategy few people fully understand.

When you pinpoint what’s holding you back, and are willing to let it go, miracles occur. There is one catch, however. Usually, the very thing you most need to let go of, is that which is most scary to give up.

Let me give you an example. This just occurred in my latest Overcoming Underearning® teleclass (see www.barbarastanny.com/coaching-tele-seminars). One woman, let’s call her Dee, was desperate to get out of debt. Her main problem – her house was more than she could afford, but she couldn’t bear to let it go. Her home was her sanctuary, a retreat from the world, tucked away in a little village that was nearby, but felt worlds away from the big city. Her closest friends were her neighbors. She never had to lock her doors. How could she ever leave this?

Yet as our class continued, it became clear. Dee needed to sell the house. It broke her heart, but it was the right thing to do. From that point on, things happened quickly.

She’d sat down to write a newspaper ad when there was a knock on the door. A man introduced himself as the father of her next-door neighbor. He wondered if, by any chance, she’d sell her house. Dee’s jaw dropped, but she kept her cool. They closed the deal, that very day, for $15,000 above what would’ve been her asking price. And the man paid cash (yes, a big wad of cash now sits in the bank).

Dee’s bound to miss her house. But she won’t miss the debt. And the relief in her voice was palpable. In fact, she was down right giddy. Besides, she’s surprisingly excited about looking for houses in her price range.

The moral of this story? The next time you feel stuck or weighted down, instead of asking; “What do I need to do?” Ask yourself; “What do I need to let go of?” Then take the leap and watch for the miracle… and please share your story with me!

Barbara Stanny

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An Amazing Secret For Creating Abundance

Written by Barbara Huson

I made a fascinating discovery in my interviews with women who made millions. They had a very high capacity to receive… in stark contrast to underearners! That’s when I realized: There’s a direct correlation between our level of abundance and our ability to receive…

…which got me thinking about my own ability to receive — something I’d never really given much thought to.

As a result, I started a “Receiving Journal”. I actually conceived the idea of a Receiving Journal for the High Earner Intensive tele-seminar (which evolved into Sacred Success). I assigned it as homework, and decided to try it myself. OMG, what an eye-opener.

Keeping a Receiving Journal serves the same purpose as tracking your spending. Both are consciousness raising tools. But instead of increasing your awareness of money going out, a Receiving Journal forces you to face all the abundance flowing in.

As A Course of Miracles tells us: “Every day a thousand treasures come to me with every passing moment.” The problem, however, is that the distractions of daily life keep us from noticing those treasures. Ignoring treasures that flow in is, essentially, an act of pushing them away, of saying ‘no’ to abundance (whatever form it may take).

To fully access the power of a Receiving Journal, you have to understand this: everything that happens holds a gift for the receiver, regardless of whether you judge the event as ‘good’ or ‘bad’.

Here’s how it works: in your Receiving Journal, write down everything you are given throughout the day: from a word of praise to a kiss on the cheek, from a muscle spasm in your back to a reprimand from your boss. The challenge, of course, is to find the treasure in what may seem awful. But even the good stuff can be challenging to accept.

For example: I started noticing how often I’d gloss over expressions of praise or appreciation for my work, without really taking the words in and owning them fully. So I started listing, in my journal, every compliment, every appreciative email I got. And when I had a fight with my boyfriend, I actually stopped to figure out the gift (after my short bout with self pity) and discovered I was repeating a pattern that had messed up other relationships. That insight went in my journal too.

I love the impact this is having on my bottom line. But even more, I’ve never felt so good about myself. And as I learned from interviews with former underearners, the moment they began raising their self esteem, their income went up almost immediately. Maybe that’s what a Receiving Journal is all about… not just expanding your ability to receive, but actually learning to love yourself, in a much bigger way. I’ll tell you this… it’s working!!!!

Can The “Secret” Really Work?

Written by Barbara Huson

I’m a big fan of The Secret. I’ve watched the DVD at least 50 times. This wildly successful video and book introduced the “Law of Attraction” (LOA) to millions of people. And that’s a very good thing…to a point.

Simply put, the Law of Attraction says: Our thoughts create our reality. What we focus on expands. In other words, if you want to be rich, don’t focus on lack of wealth.

But here’s where it gets confusing. How many people (you, maybe?) really want wealth, and refuse to focus on anything but abundance… yet still, nothing changes. Their bills pile up while their bank balance shrivels.

What the Secret failed to mention is that the LOA is only part of the equation for creating wealth. What’s missing are the other 2 Laws:

1. The Law of Discipline
2. The Law of Congruency

#1. The Law of Discipline. Discipline — consistent activity in the direction of your desire — is the root of all success. You can visualize flowers blooming, hitting a hole in one, or wads of cash, but unless you exercise disciplined effort and pull the weeds, practice your putt, or follow the rules of money (spend less, save more, invest wisely), you’re not going to succeed at anything.

#2. The Law of Congruency. You get what you want not what you ask for. For example, you may say “I want to be rich,” but if you distrust wealthy people, don’t believe you deserve wealth, or see money as the root of all evil, then wealth isn’t really what you want. This inner discord explains why affirmations or positive thinking, as powerful as they are, don’t always work… your spoken goals are in conflict with your true desires, and deep down, you don’t actually want what you’re asking for.

Whenever I’m wondering why I’m not attracting something, I always ask myself 2 questions, in this order:

1. Why don’t I want it?

2. What am I not doing, that I need to be doing?

Try it, and let me know what you think! And for more help and support in achieving your financial and personal desires, check out the schedule of Seminars listed on my website!

Women In Power – Best Kept Secret

Written by Barbara Huson

I want to share with you one of the best kept secrets in the world of women and power. It’s called Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts. I had no idea what Mama Gena’s was all about until Regena Thomashauer (aka Mama Gena) asked me to speak earlier this year. When I walked into the room, the energy was so high and the women I met so extraordinary, I knew I had to check it out. So I signed up for Mastery.

The course explores power in ways that will deeply transform your relationship with yourself as a woman along with your ability to create your dreams and desires. What it did for me was help me identify and overcome barriers that have kept me from living my life to the fullest.

Regena’s work is truly cutting edge. I’d love you to check it out at http://www.mamagenas.com, or contact me with any questions. A new Mastery is starting soon…I’d love to see you there!

Help, I Think I’m A Compulsive Shopper!

Written by Barbara Huson

It’s the finale…the last installment of popular questions. I hope they’ve been helpful. And if you have any questions for me, feel free to ask. I’d love to hear from you! So here we go:

1. I’m getting married next year. Should my fiancé and I keep separate accounts or have one joint account?
It’s fine to have a joint account for bill paying, etc, but be sure you have one for yourself too. Every woman needs an account in her own name.

2. How can I stop being such a compulsive shopper?
As my mentor, Karen McCall, a pioneer in financial recovery, always said: “You can never get enough of what you don’t really need.” The problem isn’t the shopping, but the “hole in your soul” you’re trying to fill. I highly recommend attending DA (Debtors Anonymous) meetings, a 12 step program for over-spenders, chronic debtors, and underearners.

3. What is one of the most common money mistakes women make and how can I avoid it?
Without a doubt; it’s doing nothing because you’re afraid of making a mistake. My advice is to spend 3-6 months educating yourself. How?

Every day read something about money, even if it’s just the headlines in the business section of the newspaper, even if it’s only for 1or 2 minutes.
Every week, talk about money, particularly with someone who knows more than you. (taking a class counts too).
Every month, save by having a small amount from your paycheck or checking account automatically deposited in a savings and/or retirement account.

I also encourage women to find a financial advisor they can trust, who will hold them accountable and keep them on track.

4. I’m always worrying about money. How can I calm my fears?

Educate yourself. Knowledge is the best anecdote for fear. The goal is to make financial decisions from knowledge, not ignorance, emotion or habit. Doing the 3 steps I outlined above is an amazingly simple but effective way to conquer money fears.
Join with others. We women are so relationship oriented, one of the best ways to learn is to get support by forming (or joining) a money book club, money study group, or investment club.
Track your spending. Write down every penny you spend for at least a month, then transfer those amounts to spending categories. This exercise allows you to see how/where you can shave expenses, figure out a debt repayment plan, and increase savings.
Create an emergency savings fund with at least 6 months worth of living expenses (a shoe sale is NOT an emergency!)

5. As a young career woman, what’s the single smartest thing I can do with my money now?
Automatic savings. Arrange to have the bank, every month, withdraw money from your checking account or paycheck and deposit it monthly into a personal savings account. Even small amounts ($10 or $20 a month) consistently saved accumulate quickly. It’s money you’d otherwise fritter away. And you don’t miss what you don’t see!! Do the same with your company’s retirement account.

6. My current salary is under 50K. How can I make more money?
If you love what you do, ask for a raise. If you get a ‘no’, ask your boss what you need to do for a pay increase. If you feel dead-ended, or dislike your current job, start looking for a better, higher paying one. Figure out what you’re passionate about and network like crazy. From my interviews with six- and seven-figure women, I discovered that four factors are essential for financial success and quality of life (both are important):

Passion—loving what you do
Audacity—doing what you fear
Resilience—getting back up when you fall down
Community—reaching out for support

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Getting Out Of Your Own Way

The Call to Greatness… Have you heard it yet?

The Guide To Greatness

The Retreat To Being…

5 Tips For Earning What You Really Deserve

It May Be Time To Let Go!

An Amazing Secret For Creating Abundance

Can The “Secret” Really Work?

Women In Power – Best Kept Secret

Help, I Think I’m A Compulsive Shopper!

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