By mid morning of Day #1 of my retreat, I’d identified the culprit, why I was blah. For 3 years, I’ve been futilely chasing a financial goal. And I wasn’t shy about telling anyone who would listen. If you’ve heard me speak, you’ve heard me say; “My goal is to make millions, help millions, give millions“.
Lofty, I know. But I’ve always prided myself on setting lofty goals and usually achieving them. I often brag that I, a life-long underearner, began making six-figures before I even finished writing my book, “Secrets of Six-Figure Women”. So, it seemed like a no-brainer – I’d write my next book about women making millions. Now, 2 years, 20 interviews, and a string of rejections later, the book’s unwritten, my goal unmet.
I felt frustrated, powerless, and embarrassed. Here I was helping women make more money… and I was nowhere near my 7-figure goal. Even worse, I hadn’t a clue why or what to do about it.
Until that morning… when 3 words struck me like a lightning bolt; “Go for Greatness“. Those words came from somewhere very deep, from something very wise. I grabbed my journal, starting writing.
“Isn’t that what I really want – greatness? I’ve been so focused on achieving fame and fortune, making-millions-helping-millions, but those were goals from my ego. My soul has been begging for something very different. It wanted greatness.”
It just never occurred to me, until then, that there was a distinction. Now, I wondered, what is the difference between greatness and fame? The answer came quickly.
“Fame is the quest for external validation to fill an internal void. Seeking fame is like living on credit… a pretense, an illusion to hide lack and deprivation.
Greatness, on the other hand, is the pursuit of a meaningful, authentic life for your own bliss and the benefit of others.”
It was a Eureka! moment.
Yes, that’s what I crave. It’s not millions. It’s not fame. It’s Greatness! I’d been seeking fame and fortune to justify my worth. But what I genuinely craved were opportunities to fulfill my purpose, live my truth, and make a difference in the world. I still wanted to make more money. But the game had changed… and so had the rules. Yet until that moment, I never even realized it.
I had made a discovery some time back, never applying it to me. I saw that once a woman becomes financially secure and stable, she is no longer motivated by money. Once she has a profit motive firmly intact, financial success turns into a spiritual journey. This new journey is no longer fueled by increased earnings (though that may be a desired outcome). It is fueled by a search for significance, a deep desire to make one’s mark on the world.
That’s what had happened to me, and I didn’t even realize it. Making millions seemed the obvious next step. It felt impressive — it certainly was feeding my ego. What I didn’t realize — my soul was starving. Once I shifted my focus, the blahs vanished, my energy returned. I could almost hear my soul sigh in relief.
I had received the Call to Greatness. And I am convinced, without a shadow of a doubt, women all over the world are receiving the same call. Perhaps, you’re one of them. Perhaps, like me, you don’t quite understand what’s going on.
Let me explain what you may be experiencing. Symptoms of the Call for Greatness include: restlessness, feeling stuck, anxiety, yearning, frustration, or, like me, the ‘blahs’. These symptoms are indicator lights, sending a message; You’re ready to move into the New Game of Money. This new game is called Going for Greatness. The point is no longer overcoming anything. You’ve already done that. It’s now about becoming all you can be.
In my next blog, I’ll say more about Greatness in much greater depth. Stay tuned!
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