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A Radical New Way of Making New Year’s Resolutions

Can it be? We’re only two weeks away from beginning a new year. I’ll be spending time with my family and I’m offering this last “from the archives” blog for you to consider as you celebrate whatever traditions you celebrate and get ready to jump into 2020.

I used to do it every year. Then I stopped. Last weekend, however, I was drawn to make New Year’s resolutions.

It felt really good to list them: Write another book. Create a home study course. Visit my kids more frequently. Get away with my hubby. Yoga class at least 3 times a week.

But when I reviewed the list, I was surprised by my reaction. Instead of being pumped up, I felt uninspired. Huh? These were things I deeply desire, achievements that would surely feed my soul. Why wasn’t I excited?

I remembered a line from A Course in Miracles: “Seek not outside yourself…for you will surely fail.” In other words, I’ll never find what I really want if I keep looking for it ‘out there’ or stipulating where to find it.

Then I have a flash back. New Year’s Eve, 1995. At the top of my list: Finish my first book. Not because I enjoy the writing. But as a published author, I’ll finally feel important. Two years pass. I walk by a bookstore, see my book in the window, and wait to feel important. The feeling never came.

Looking back at that memory, I realize that what I’m wanting isn’t actually a tangible goal. It’s how I want to feel once I attain it.

I make a brand new list: To savor the gratification and joy writing gives me. To relish in the pleasure of working with my team in the creation of something new. To spend more time immersed in the love of my family. And to feel connected to my soul, healthy in my body and experience extended periods of inner peace.

Reading these now, I feel energized, excited for whatever unexpected events or unimagined opportunities the universe may bring.

What if you did the same? Rewrite your resolutions, listing the feelings you wish to experience without insisting you know how to find them, Share your thoughts below.

Wishing you all a wonderful holiday and a healthy, happy, prosperous new year. I’ll be back in 2019 2020!

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Comments & Feedback

  • Rebecca B

    Love this!!

  • Lara

    I wish to experience:
    a sense of contribution
    sensual deliciousness

    • barbara huson

      I love all those, Lara…may the new year bring them to you or something even better!!! Thanks for sharing your list with me!

  • Danielle

    This is awesome! I needed some inspiration on writing my 2019 Manifesto… and I found it. I know in my heart things will get done, but I need to make sure I enjoy the journey.

    Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with us! You’ve been such a Blessing to me.


  • Jackie

    This is so great! I have been avoiding resolutions as well, mainly because after I get to writing them down, I didn’t feel inspired. Now I know why!

    I wish to experience more of the gratitude and amazement that I feel when I serve my clients fully and authentically.

    I wish to feel connected and grounded in my body daily. I wish to savor nature’s beauty on a weekly basis or more.

    Thank you for this!

  • Cynthia

    Thank you for this. This stopped me in my tracks once I read it.
    It makes so much sense.

  • Maria

    You’ve hit the nail right on the head, Barbara! I’ve shared that “blah” feeling looking at my own lists of goals in the past but you’ve uncovered the “why?”. Thank you and best wishes for a happy holiday season!

    • barbara huson

      wonderful, Maria…thank you so much for letting me know. I wish you a very happy, successful, healthy new year!

  • barbara huson

    I so appreciate your beautifully sincere post. Danielle. I am very touched by your kind words. May 2020 be a year of joy and ease for you. xoxo

  • Pascale Thivierge

    Wonderful Barbara, happy to join you again after a few years (OYTW 2015 – from Quebec, Canada)! Thanks for your question. Truly connects me with my essence and how I want it to radiate.
    To answer your question, in 2020 I want to feel excited I am helping others achieve their goals as well as by achieving goals together for the greater good. I also want to be touched every day by my now 7 year old, and challenged I must admit, seeing her grow and making me grow and become a more complete human, woman.
    Happy 2020 to you!

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