Looking for Yaysayers? Here’s How You Find Them.

Are you having a hard time achieving the level of success you desire and deserve?  Here’s some sage advice:  No one will do it for you, but you don’t have to do it alone!

I learned this from the savvy women I interviewed for my book. Prince Charming Isn’t Coming. Not one of those women succeeded in isolation. I realized I couldn’t either.

Listening to their stories inspired me to take action, despite my crippling fear, and showed me what to do to get smart.

Support is particularly critical for us women. We are relationship oriented. Connection is extremely important to us.

We thrive on the synergy of mutual support and collaboration. We love to share our experience with another. We do our best when others are cheering us on and holding us accountable.

But a word of warning is in order.  Be selective when seeking support. There are basically two kinds of people: the Naysayers and the Yaysayers.

Naysayers will try to hold you back, rein you in.Not because they’re bad people or don’t care. They may be your best friend or close family. But, due to their own fears and insecurities, they feel threatened by your success, too scared to change themselves.

Yaysayers genuinely want you to succeed. They may be on the same path as you. They may not be. But they’re happy for your progress and eager to support you.

I heartily encourage you to minimize, or better yet eliminate, the time you hang around with the Naysayers. And surround yourself with Yaysayers.

How do you find support? Here are some ideas:

  1. Ask someone. Invite a friend or colleague to be your accountability buddy. Schedule regular check-ins to share your accomplishments, commit to action steps, discuss challenges.
  2. Form a group. Start a book club or support group with a few others on the same path.
  3. Find a mentor, someone who knows more than you. Invite them for lunch or tea and ask a lot of questions, listening for guidance.
  4. Join The Wealth Connection, my amazing online community where women talk safely, openly and intimately about money, as women. Check it out HERE.

Are you getting enough support for your financial goals? Leave me a comment below.

Comments & Feedback

  • Lisa

    It’s mysterious where you can find the yay sayer’s! I met this really gorgeous model while working on the set of a TV commercial. She told me her biggest regret in life was not investing in the S&P 500 📉 She said someone gave her great advice to invest in it. She wrote the information down. She saved the money 💰, then something held her back from making the transaction. The value of the S&P 500 skyrocketed and she missed out on making an enormous profit because she was too scared. We have both promised to text each other after we invest in an S&P 500 index fund. I remember that day well. Nobody (primary men)liked our conversation and kept walking away from us.

    • barbara huson

      That’s so cool, Lisa. I love this story. Did you both invest and text each other when you did? I wonder why the men kept walking away…that makes no sense. Unless they were so backwards that they didn’t like hearing women talk about investing. Sad 🙁

      • Lisa

        Hi Barbara,

        No, we haven’t texted each other about the S&P 500 📉 yet, however I know we will. We met in Jan 2020 just before the pandemic 😷, so we invested in other opportunities instead.

        Grateful we met. I saw the word S&P 500 everywhere, yet I never really understood what it meant. I can even buy the fund with my trading account. I don’t think either of us will mind who texts first.

        The men are a long story. Some men are struggling artists, and these type of conversations trigger their inferior complex. They can usually do what they do, because there is a lady paying their rent. I think they expect us to talk about diet, exercise and skin care all day! Although one man I met was a former trader who gave me some good advice…

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When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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