Are you having a hard time achieving the level of success you desire and deserve? Here’s some sage advice: No one will do it for you, but you don’t have to do it alone!
I learned this from the savvy women I interviewed for my book. Prince Charming Isn’t Coming. Not one of those women succeeded in isolation. I realized I couldn’t either.
Listening to their stories inspired me to take action, despite my crippling fear, and showed me what to do to get smart.
Support is particularly critical for us women. We are relationship oriented. Connection is extremely important to us.
We thrive on the synergy of mutual support and collaboration. We love to share our experience with another. We do our best when others are cheering us on and holding us accountable.
But a word of warning is in order. Be selective when seeking support. There are basically two kinds of people: the Naysayers and the Yaysayers.
Naysayers will try to hold you back, rein you in.Not because they’re bad people or don’t care. They may be your best friend or close family. But, due to their own fears and insecurities, they feel threatened by your success, too scared to change themselves.
Yaysayers genuinely want you to succeed. They may be on the same path as you. They may not be. But they’re happy for your progress and eager to support you.
I heartily encourage you to minimize, or better yet eliminate, the time you hang around with the Naysayers. And surround yourself with Yaysayers.
How do you find support? Here are some ideas:
- Ask someone. Invite a friend or colleague to be your accountability buddy. Schedule regular check-ins to share your accomplishments, commit to action steps, discuss challenges.
- Form a group. Start a book club or support group with a few others on the same path.
- Find a mentor, someone who knows more than you. Invite them for lunch or tea and ask a lot of questions, listening for guidance.
- Join The Wealth Connection, my amazing online community where women talk safely, openly and intimately about money, as women. Check it out HERE.
Are you getting enough support for your financial goals? Leave me a comment below.