Decades ago, a coach gave me a powerful assignment. It’s something I’ll never forget.
For 2 weeks, I was to simply observe my conversations, without changing a thing. Just notice what I talked about, the words I used, my typical reactions…you know, the stuff I was sharing with others.
What I saw was not pretty.
I had a habit of putting myself down…without even realizing it. I’d constantly dismiss my skills (“Oh, that’s no big thing”), deflect praise (“I thought I was awful”), and diminish my successes (“But I could’ve done so much better”).
What felt like humility was, in truth, an act of self-sabotage. Every word of self -depreciation put another dent in my self-esteem.
“What you share you strengthen,” explains A Course in Miracles. I was strengthening my self-doubt while crushing my confidence. No wonder I was struggling.
What about you? Could you be minimizing your achievements, underestimating your value, chipping away at your sense of worth? I invite you to find out.
Spend a few weeks simply noticing what you talk about. Then ask yourself this question: Could I be undermining my success by what I’m sharing with others?
Leave me a comment below to tell me what you observed.
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