Has It Clicked Yet?

I call it the Click. It’s that ‘aha’ moment when you recognize, with every fiber of your being, that you deserve to earn more for no other reason than you’re worth it

Without the Click, upping your income can be an uphill battle. But once you realize how capable you are, how much value you offer, barriers that once felt insurmountable will begin to disappear.

You see, there is a direct correlation between your level of self-esteem and the amount that you earn.

Virtually every high earner I interviewed for my books swore money was not her primary motivation. But at the same time, she fully expected to be highly compensated because she knew she was worth it.

How do you build that kind of self-esteem? How do you access the Click? Simply put: Do what you dread.

That’s probably not what you wanted to hear. But trust me, there’s no better way to boost your confidence than by doing what you are scared to do or don’t believe you can do.

The more frightening or daunting it feels, the more important it is to face.  And when you fall down—which everyone does—just get back up and keep going. 

From this day forward, look for ways to get out of your comfort zone.  Volunteer for what scares you. Speak up and ask for what you want. Let go of what’s holding you back.

And pay particular attention to letting go. More often than not, people get stuck because they’re clinging to the very thing that keeps them glued in place.

You may need to give up something tangible, like a job, a relationship, a geographical location.  Or it can be intangible, like a limiting belief, a repressed emotion, an unhealthy habit.

Do what you fear and here’s what you’ll discover. Your self-esteem won’t come from the amount of money you make, but the degree to which your life is no longer run by fear.

What’s keeping you glued in place? Tell me about it in the comments below.

Comments & Feedback

  • Susan Bernat

    Dear Barbara,

    Oh, I feel as if this blog piece is aimed directly at me. Bless you.

    In the midst of mild depression, I have pinpointed a particular desire, an activity that would make me feel better…rather quickly. This desire is to TRAVEL, one activity that I can confidently say I am “good at.” Imagine.

    As a member of a military family, I have traveled from an early age; travel is in my blood.

    Yet, as you aptly capture in this blog post, those discouraging voices immediately rush in to preclude any such action on my part. (I believe those voices originated with my mother; I absorbed the attitude that I felt coming from her.) The result: I feel trapped.

    I see this desire travel, especially in this moment, as emanating from a deep well within me, one whose waters are indeed curative. This is truly about giving myself permission to trust my intuition, and allowing myself to enjoy what I know is instinctual to my identity.

    This would mean stepping outside my comfort zone and daring to take a step that may, or may not, lead to something even better. Perhaps more important, it would mean challenging a deep-seated fear, namely that if I move forward without a pot of money in the bank, I will fail, I will get into trouble, I will feel ashamed, and I will somehow be condemned. Yes, these fears come directly from my mother.

    I am not talking about abandoning my home. I’m talking about flying to Europe for a few weeks. I’ve lived (briefly) and have studied on that continent, and I feel the ‘Old Continent’ strongly calling to me at present. I have a former professor who would readily host me in one country, where I speak the language. And I would like to spend some time in two (adjoining) nations. My point is that this does not sound like an outrageous idea on the surface.

    So thank you for your encouragement! I’m going to book an airline ticket, step off into a small adventure, and try my best not to worry about the financial costs that I will face–in the form of credit card debt–when I return. I mean, if one cannot allow herself to have some fun when suffering from depression, then she is only deepening the (mental ) hole in which she finds herself. Read: I do not allow myself to have fun often.

    I must believe that I am worth the gamble. I must believe that I have the capacity, the intelligence, the imagination, and the will to sustain myself upon my return. And, if I’m fortunate, I may return with new ideas and a newfound sense of determination to incorporate more of my wishes into my life, with the goal of making some dreams come true.

    Does this sound like magical thinking? Or does that thought represent yet another manifestation of irrational fear? I think I must take the risk, in order to find out.

    YOLO. Carpe diem!

    Fondly,
    Susan

Meet Barbara Huson

When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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