Feeling Stuck? Ask Yourself This Compelling Question

I’ve been feeling stuck for a while now. Like I need to make a change, do something different, but what?

This feeling started about 5 years ago. I lost interest in my work, which took me by surprise. I loved what I did, but suddenly my heart wasn’t in it. I kept wondering: what else can I do?

I had no desire to change careers. I definitely wasn’t ready to retire. So I decided to write another book. The research was fun. The writing was challenging but fascinating. The book, Rewire for Wealth,  published last year, has done quite well.

And yet, here I am—still restless…still dissatisfied…still feeling stuck. This time, there’s no book in me.  So I’ve been praying hard: God, show me what to do!

And lo and behold, my prayer was answered. Though it wasn’t what I wanted to hear.  It came as a flashback to my interviews for my second book, Secrets of Six-Figure Women.

Virtually every woman told me that letting something go played a major role in their eventual success. And it was usually what they were most afraid to give up that was the very thing they needed to release.

That’s when I realized I’d been asking the wrong question. I needed to replace “What should I do?,” with: “What do I need to let go of?”

I’ve been giving this question a lot of thought. And of course, the answer I got feels scary, uncomfortable, less than ideal, but I know I need to do it.

I’m letting go of coaching. I’m no longer taking on new clients and will be wrapping up the ones I have.

This was not an easy decision to make. I adore my clients. But as Carl Jung once said: For better to come, good must stand aside.

I’m still keeping my beloved online community, The Wealth Connection, and will continue coaching members of the community who want it. But I’m committed to creating space for (hopefully) something “better” to show up.

I suspect I’m not alone. If you too are feeling stuck, I invite you to ask yourself the same question. What do I need to let go of? And then leave me a comment below to tell me what you discovered.

Comments & Feedback

  • Mary Stephenson

    Oh wow, I have a ton of stuff to let go of… but the alternative is even more scary. Probably the biggest thing is regret that I didn’t plan for retirement. Now I am in survival mode just in case I have to come up with plan B. Getting past fear is the biggest issue. Introverts don’t do well at marketing themselves. LOL

    • barbara huson

      It’s never ever too late to start investing for retirement, but you got to let go of the fear and all the stories you’re telling yourself. I’m a total and complete introvert…I’m not crazy about marketing, but I do it and it works because I haven’t told myself I can’t. I wish you could see how you’re holding yourself back, Mary.

  • Lisa

    Whenever I’ve felt stuck, it’s because I’ve needed to let go of a person or an idea that’s just not very realistic.

    Right now I need to let go of a person who loves to gossip! She’s repressed and bored. I’m never bored! I’m a privacy freak. I believe what people don’t know they can’t ruin. She likes to tell details about my life to people I haven’t met before. Her husband likes to interrogate me with questions like a police officer. Sometimes she likes to tell tales about other peoples misfortune and disguises it as caring.

    • barbara huson

      Oh my, that sounds like a perfect person to keep your distance from. Good you see it and good you’re going to let her (and her husband) go. Thanks for sharing this.

      • Lisa

        Thanks, Barbara.

        Haven’t seen her since March, however she would like to catch up in September.

        She gossips, because apart from going to IKEA, she doesn’t have anything spicy to talk about.

        I’ll have to tell her that I don’t want to talk or bond with her over stories about other people’s misfortunes. I’m a pretty busy and I just want to laugh.

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When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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