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Impatience vs Acceptance

There’s nothing like a burning goal to inspire you to go for it, full throttle. You’re excited to write a book. You’re eager to grow your savings. You yearn to start a business.

But what happens when you run into the inevitable speed bumps and road blocks?  The fire in your belly can rage out of control. Your drive turns to desperation.

You become convinced that if you don’t make it happen right now, it never will. Impatience is the enemy of success, the death knell to higher aspirations, a sure-fire path to mediocrity.

Your Ego, like an angry parent, is shrieking “hurry up or you’ll fall behind.”

These bogus threats are guaranteed to sap creativity, drain energy, delay progress.

My most memorable lesson in acceptance came during an early visit to a California farm where my daughter interned. The week I was there, the seedlings in the greenhouse were sprouting and needed to be planted. The baby chicks, now mature hens, had to be moved to bigger quarters. But nature had other plans. It poured. And rain was forecast for the next few days.

Here we were, all geared up to do both. I watched in awe at what happened next. No one got uptight. No one cursed nature. No teeth were gnashing or hands wringing. Instead, the farm owner shrugged his shoulders, and said: “Enjoy the down time.” What a concept!

We found other things to do. We cleaned the eggs. We did outreach. One woman made a delicious apple crisp. Another couple worked on a brochure. We had a scrumptious stir-fry, loaded with freshly picked veggies.

What really struck me: everyone seemed grounded in a deep sense of faith—a respect for nature’s timing, a deference to forces out of their control, a trust in a higher order—that was so strong, they were able to dispense with their plans, embrace the delays, go with the flow and enjoy the whole process, with nary a complaint. Eventually the seeds were planted and the hens were moved, both in more than enough time.

Acceptance isn’t just tolerating delays, but honoring the natural rhythm of growth, trusting in the outcome, even if it feels as if you’re going nowhere.

I’d love to know where in your life you could replace impatience with acceptance. Leave me a comment below.

Comments & Feedback

  • Alvina

    What a great reminder, Barbara. “All things in due time.” That’s how my Mother used to say it. Your message is right on time, as usual.

  • Barbara Alpher

    My intention is to increase my income to $5,000/month. I know that sounds so low to many of you, but it’s what I want to start. Right now, anything more than that and my belief in it happening goes out the window.

    I want it to happen NOW. It will take some time but will indeed happen if my intention stays intact.

    • barbara huson

      Actually, Barbara, that doesn’t seem low to me at all!! I think it’s an excellent figure to aim for! And if it feels doable, and your intention is intact, chances are strong you’ll hit that target! Good luck. Let me know when it happens!!!

  • Jenifer

    I used to be very type A, always on the go and a big believer in “right and wrong.” I read a great book by Diane Dreher “The Tao of Inner Peace” and it finally got through to me that there is a flow to life, ying and yang. Not a good and bad, just a flow and we here to honor it, not try to control it. Just like we actually can’t control our gardens, we are just here to be stewards and support them in their growth.

    I am in a season of change as I turned 60 this year and somehow feeling ” the end is near” which is not me at all. Time for me to tune in and listen to what I am worried about and what my calling is at this point.

  • barbara huson

    How beautiful, Jennifer, to look at life as a flow of ying and yang that we must honor to find peace. And when we are in peace, it’s so much easier to tune in to our soul’s guidance. Thank you so much for sharing this. It really resonated with me!

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When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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