You Can’t Do That!! Who Do You Think You Are?

We all have internal critics. The ones that tell us what we can’t possibly do, how we’re sure to screw up if we even try.

Those voices may never shut up. Mine sure haven’t.

But recently I had an epiphany. Just because I hear voices in my head, doesn’t mean I have to heed them.

As Vincent Van Gogh once said: If you hear a voice within you say ‘you can not paint,’ by all means paint and the voice will be silenced.”

Instead I just keep reminding myself: that’s not my voice. It’s the voice of my dad, the culture, teachers, something ‘out there.’ But it isn’t mine.

Then I simply say to that voice: Thank you for sharing. Then I replace that critical voice with a more positive statement, a personal mantra or affirmation.

And no matter how reluctant I feel, I force myself to do what I need to do.

It happened to me recently. I was asked to participate in a project that scared the hell out of me. My inner critic kept warning me, unmercifully, “You can’t do that. You’ll fail miserably.”

I didn’t argue. Nor did I ignore it. Instead, I replaced that voice with a louder one that kept reassuring me, “I can handle that.”

Did I believe it at first. Of course not.

But I kept repeating it over and over again“I can handle that”—until the project I dreaded, actually became fun and was a huge success.

How do you deal with that negative voice in your head? Leave me a comment below.

Comments & Feedback

  • Lisa


    I got fired from a TV CM for being too fat. A part of me just wanted to block out the whole awful, humiliating, experience; however I made myself speak up about it without getting angry. A little voice inside my head screamed THIS IS SO WRONG which prevented me from going into avoidance!

    Having to wait to see how things unfolded was hard, however I ended up getting financially compensated for being called fat!

    • barbara huson

      Wow, Lisa, that’s a horrible story that you navigated it beautifully and created a happy ending. I’m sorry it happened to you…but I absolutely love your courage and strength.

  • Lisa

    Thanks Barbara,

    I am loving my “fat” payment I received! Bet that producer is going to think twice now before firing someone and fat shaming a woman in front of a room full of men!

    • barbara huson

      I am sure you’re right. You taught him a great lesson…and I’m sure it wasn’t easy. I’m so proud o f you.

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When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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