What do you say when someone calls you a B*tch? Thank You!

One question I always ask financially successful women: What is your biggest regret?  

Almost everyone has the same response. Not speaking up sooner. As one woman, a 7th grade drop-out,  told me: “You don’t get what you deserve. You get what you demand.”  

But even the most successful found it downright scary to ask for what they wanted, to say no to what they didn’t.  

You know why? Studies prove that assertive, forceful men are given high marks by their bosses.  Assertive, forceful women are labeled a bitch.   

I’m here to tell you—being a bitch is not a bad thing. That’s where our power is.

I’m not talking about the bitchy part. That’s the co-dependent in us who suppresses her true needs and gets very resentful. 

The bitch is the powerful part who refuses to be a doormat, a victim, or tolerate injustices; who has the courage to be who she is and want what she wants. 

 Because you see, a bitch is a Babe In Total Control of Herself. 

What do you do to stand up for what you want? Tell me in the comments below.

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Comments & Feedback

  • Daniele Largo

    Hiya Barbara, I am DETERMINED to ask for the money I deserve. I’ve been doing this the last 3 years and get better at it the last 2 years. ItS absolutely terrifying sometimes for me. I even practice in the mirror to see myself when I do it… it actually helps. I’m feeling more and more confident doing it but it is still a little unnerving. I am the Pet Behaviorist/Whisperer that spoke to you a couple of years back on one of your calls. My company is Ask Daniele 4 Pets and I’ve grown a thriving pet community over 6,000 loving pet parents and counting around the world. I love what I do and I’m on course to build my pet empire. I’d love for you to check it out askdaniele4pets.com you’re AWESOME Barbara and I wish you continued success & happiness.


    • Barbara huson

      Thanks so much for your kind words Daniele! And I’m thrilled for your success…and your courage to do what you’re scared to do! That’s really the secret to success. You inspire me! And I definitely remember talking to you.

  • Lisa

    Hi Barbara,

    First I check in with a couple of people who’s opinion I trust to make sure what I’m requesting is reasonable. Then, while being factual, I keep taking it higher and higher until I get what I want. Usually it works.

  • Barbara huson

    Love your strategy Lisa! Thanks for sharing. Getting feedback and support is truly helpful!

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Meet Barbara Huson

When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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