Writing my second book, Secrets of Six Figure Women, changed my life. I, a chronic underearner actually became a high earner. Even better, I finally understood how to own my power, as a woman.
I want that for you too. My deepest desire is to help as many women as possible step firmly into their power. It’s time. The world needs us. To that end, I share the 5 Truths of Feminine Power.
Truth #1. I Know What I Want
Our power comes from the choices we make, choices that reflect who we are, not what someone else wants. Start by asking yourself: What do I really want? Then go deeper: If I had 6 months to live, what would I do, who would I be with, where would I live? And know that if this list doesn’t come close to where you are now and you’re unhappy, it’s a sign you’ve given your power away.
Truth #2. I Speak Up
Like it or not, if there’s something you want, you’ve got to speak up. As one high earner told me: “You don’t get what you deserve. You get what you demand.” Every time you silently stew, you relinquish your power. But Truth #1 must come first. Otherwise, you risk becoming a victim, a martyr, or just plain miserable.
Truth #3. I Let Go
Real power is not the ability to make something happen, but the strength to make something stop. You have to let go of what is–unhealthy relationships, destructive habits, stressful situations–to get what you want. This takes courage. The very thing you need to let go of is likely what you’re most afraid to release.
Truth #4. I Believe in Myself
Virtually every woman I interviewed struggled with fear and insecurity. Yet, as one woman put it, “I was able to bounce from massive self-doubt to damn-the-torpedo confidence.” How? By doing what they were scared to do. And when they fell down, they got back up and kept going until they finally succeeded. Each time, their belief in themselves grew steadily stronger. Which brings us to #5…
Truth # 5: I Go Where I Fear
Power always hides behind fear. Stepping into your power means stretching beyond what feels comfortable to do what seems impossible. The trick is to view the stretch like an archery target. The bullseye is your Comfort Zone. The next two circles are your Discomfort Zone, where you learn the most. And the outermost ring is the Danger Zone, to be avoided. Eventually your Discomfort Zone becomes your Comfort Zone and it’s time to stretch again. To stop stretching is to stagnate.
What Truth do you most need to work on? Share in the comments below.