The 5 Truths of Feminine Power

Writing my second book, Secrets of Six Figure Women, changed my life. I, a chronic underearner actually became a high earner. Even better, I finally understood how to own my power, as a woman.

I want that for you too. My deepest desire is to help as many women as possible step firmly into their power. It’s time. The world needs us. To that end, I share the 5 Truths of Feminine Power.

Truth #1. I Know What I Want

Our power comes from the choices we make, choices that reflect who we are, not what someone else wants. Start by asking yourself: What do I really want? Then go deeper: If I had 6 months to live, what would I do, who would I be with, where would I live? And know that if this list doesn’t come close to where you are now and you’re unhappy, it’s a sign you’ve given your power away.

Truth #2. I Speak Up

Like it or not, if there’s something you want, you’ve got to speak up. As one high earner told me: “You don’t get what you deserve. You get what you demand.” Every time you silently stew, you relinquish your power. But Truth #1 must come first. Otherwise, you risk becoming a victim, a martyr, or just plain miserable.

Truth #3. I Let Go

Real power is not the ability to make something happen, but the strength to make something stop. You have to let go of what is–unhealthy relationships, destructive habits, stressful situations–to get what you want. This takes courage. The very thing you need to let go of is likely what you’re most afraid to release.

Truth #4. I Believe in Myself

Virtually every woman I interviewed struggled with fear and insecurity. Yet, as one woman put it, “I was able to bounce from massive self-doubt to damn-the-torpedo confidence.” How? By doing what they were scared to do. And when they fell down, they got back up and kept going until they finally succeeded. Each time, their belief in themselves grew steadily stronger. Which brings us to #5…

Truth # 5: I Go Where I Fear

Power always hides behind fear. Stepping into your power means stretching beyond what feels comfortable to do what seems impossible. The trick is to view the stretch like an archery target. The bullseye is your Comfort Zone. The next two circles are your Discomfort Zone, where you learn the most. And the outermost ring is the Danger Zone, to be avoided. Eventually your Discomfort Zone becomes your Comfort Zone and it’s time to stretch again. To stop stretching is to stagnate.

What Truth do you most need to work on? Share in the comments below.

Comments & Feedback

  • Lydia Theon Ware i

    Truth#2 I don’t speak up. I let my needs not be met by keeping quiet. Barbara, I want to thank you. Your letters are always right on time for me. Thank you.

    • Peggy

      Truth #1. If I don’t know what I want, I can’t do anything about it. Therefore, the others are irrelevant.

      • barbara huson

        Ain’t that the truth, Peggy. I hope you find it in your heart to figure out what you want. It’s the foundation for a life well lived. Which you truly deserve…we all do!

    • barbara huson

      Thank you, Lydia. I’m sorry to hear you’re not able to speak up…yet! I hope you make that a goal–to work on building that atrophied muscle. It makes such a difference!


    I just did something I’ve had on my list to do. I’ve been pushing myself to do things that absolutely terrify me everyday since last year. Today I emailed our CA Gov Gavin Newsom about my awesome ECO-FRIENDLY Product/System OUTSIDE T.E.O.S. It naturally deters trespassing animals and bugs off your property and out of your home. I know this revolutionary product is needed and the Governors passion about the environment is going to love it. My heart is still pounding a bit … but that’s a good thing.

    The world needs this product. If you’re curious about OUTSIDE T.E.O.S. for yourself go to buyteos.com and get a free sample to try you’ll love it.

    Thank you Barbara for this article today, it confirmed exactly what I’ve been doing & will continue to do


    • barbara huson

      Congratulations, Danielle! That’s awesome. I’d love you to let me know when you hear back from the governor. And I’m wishing you tremendous success with this wonderful product you created. The world needs more courageous and creative women like you!!! Thanks for sharing this with me!

  • Lisa

    It’s on my 2024 reading goal list to read Secrets of Six Figure Women!

    Since about 2018, I’ve discovered I want more paid time off, not a pay rise. I guess paid time off is a currency. Sometimes I fall off the bandwagon and still think I want to negotiate a higher salary. I’m somewhat satisfied with the money I earn, however I wouldn’t mind more and I think I’m entitled to more. I also find some purpose doing the work I do and see it as a stepping stone on to something higher.

    If I had six months to live, I know I would want to travel back home to my country to make peace with my family of origin, see some friends, have some fun with my husband and endulge in some of my hobbies I really enjoy doing. I’m taking half a paid month off in February to do exactly that! I admit that speaking up about this at work was slightly nerve racking, especially after taking a couple of days off around Xmas. I had to practice and prepare what I had to say. It was worth it, because I feel completely in control of my life right now. My confidence went up a tier!

    • barbara huson

      Oh Lisa, I love that you feel in control of your life. Obviously you’re doing a lot of things right. Way to go!!! I hope you have a great February doing all those fun things. Thanks for sharing this with me!!!

  • Lisa

    Thanks, Barbara.

    One of my uncles is having some difficulty after my Grandmother passed, so I’m glad I have the power and the funds to fly over and see him and visit her grave together while I’m back home.

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Meet Barbara Huson

When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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