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Why You Probably Suck at Receiving

In this season of giving, it’s worth stopping and giving some thought to how you receive. Here’s another blog from the archives to think about.

Consider this. There’s a direct correlation between your ability to receive and your level of financial success. 

The problem, however—most of us suck at receiving. 

Think about it.  How often do you gloss over praise, deflect admiration, deny an achievement or respond with self-criticism?  

Receiving is to your Soul what eating is to your body—a source of strength, nourishment, and growth. When you fail to receive, you’re literally starving your Soul.  

But here’s where it gets tricky. Many gifts come camouflaged and are easily overlooked. To receive fully you must suspend judgment. Nothing that happens is ‘good’ or ‘bad, ’right’ or ‘wrong,’ ‘negative’ or ‘positive.’ 

Everything, absolutely everything, no matter how it feels, is a gift, a message, a lesson, a form of divine communication. 

This, of course, is counterintuitive. It’s easy to receive a compliment from a friend, but a reprimand from your boss? That too can be a gift when you mine it for its deeper meaning. 

To quote a Zen saying, the obstacle is the path. “So that like oxygen to a fire,” writes  author Robert Greene, “obstacles and adversity become fuel for your potential.”  

To receive fully means this: Every frustration, disappointment or even failure is, in truth, a source of guidance, support, and strength building…a gift, that if fully received, will increase your success exponentially.

I’d love to hear your experiences of how past disappointments turned out to be gifts in disguise. Share your story in the comments below.

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Comments & Feedback

  • Evie Edman

    Hi Barbara and all,
    The way I feel when it is time to receive is that I don’t deserve the praise. I have such high expectations of myself that are pending on one another that usually my achievements and failures are dependent on another step that succeeded or failed. I then group them together. They are linked in a plan. If I fail or succeed let’s me know if I go to the next step or go to plan B.

    • barbara huson

      Oh Evie, time to replace the thought ‘I don’t deserve the praise” with something healthier and far more beneficial. Try: “Yes, it’s true. Their praise reflects who I really am!” xo

  • Lourdes Obyrne

    Yes! Yes and more yes! Learning to receive it all. Such a valuable lesson! So grateful that you as usual are able to put this in a context that is practical and useful.. I continue to work on getting out of my own way and releasing the judgements (blinders) that don’t allow me to see the gifts in all situations!
    Thank you!

  • Anastasia Beaverhousand

    Thanks Barbara.

    Sometimes receiving absolutely nothing from someone is a disappointment, but a lesson in disguise about what I VALUE.

    I welcome people into my life who are genuine, sincere and a little bit reciprocal. I don’t have much time for people who are constantly “takers” or charity cases, unless they are part of a charity I donate to. I am blessed to have a lot of people in my life who enjoy reciprocity.

  • Anastasia Beaverhousand

    Not receiving anything at all is important lesson from the universe

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