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Lifting Heavier Weights

Have you noticed, in gyms, when guys are lifting really heavy weights, they ask someone, often a perfect stranger, to spot them?    

How many times have you seen a woman do that?  Hardly ever! We’ll hire trainers. But ask another to spot us? Unthinkable.

I always thought this scenario was a perfect metaphor for how many women tend to approach life.  Here’s why:

1st, we rarely lift very heavy weights. 

2nd, we don’t want to bother anyone. 

3rd, we’re determined to do it alone.

Yet, to achieve success, in anything, requires us to lift heavier weights. This is how we build up confidence and strength to climb to greater heights.

And we can’t do it alone. We need spotters—people we trust to have our backs, to encourage us when the going gets tough or high-five us when we finally lift that heavy weight.

Seven years ago, I shared my gym observation with a friend, Suzy Carroll, who, being the leader she is, formed a spotters group with four of us. What a remarkable experience it’s been.

Once a month, we gather after work, or lately, on the weekends, at someone’s house. Each one takes her turn, sharing what’s on her mind, be it a troublesome situation or a thrilling victory. The others offer loving support, candid feedback, often relating their own similar experiences.

Our meetings usually last about two hours. We don’t leave without setting another date when we’re all available. Not an easy task for busy women, but we’ve made it work.

It’s been incredible to witness how each of us has grown, in ways we could never have imagined at the outset. And we know, with utter certainty, we would’ve never progressed this far alone.

I heartily encourage you to form your own spotters group. I swear…it’s truly life changing.

Do you have a support group you’re part of? Tell me about it below.

Looking for support? I created my virtual community, The Wealth Connection to support women in their financial journey. Join today and hop on my Live Office Hours Call!

Comments & Feedback

  • Kaye Williams

    Yes, Silver Tent women over 50 on facebook. It’s an awesome group, really big I’ve joined this year and gotten so much connection and support.

  • Laura

    Barbara, I never go forward without the support of women friends. As you may recall, one was a group of several after your retreat in Seatac. I’ve had two since then. Right now, it’s one other woman; we meet every Monday at 9:30 am via Skype. Karen helps me keep on track, and I’ve learned so much from her!

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