Is Busyness Your Drug of Choice?

Are you achieving the kind of success along with the quality of life you truly desire? If the answer is no, you may be addicted to busynessa condition that’s epidemic among women.

We tend to stuff every cranny of our life with so much activity that we’ve lost touch with what’s really essential as opposed to what’s actually irrelevant.

But ask us to say no to a task, and we start to panic. As if our world would shatter if we slowed down. The truth is, we’ve lost sight of what’s honestly important and truly necessary.

I didn’t realize busyness was my drug of choice until the pandemic when my life slowed down significantly. I’m the first to admit—busyness is a bitch to give up.

Without endless activity, I was left with empty space. Empty space that gave rise to painful feelings. I felt antsy, unproductive, like a failure and a fraud. Rather than experience the pain, I tried to fill up the space.

But, as I came to see, when you face what you fear, it no longer controls you. Here’s what I did to detox from all the frenetic activity:

  • I didn’t go cold turkey; it was a gradual process.
  • I made it a game—every day I asked myself: what can I take off my to-do list today?
  • I forced myself (at first) to allow downtime, to just stare out the window or take a leisurely walk.
  • I felt the guilt, anxiety and agitation. I let them surface, experienced them fully, and journaled about them.
  • When I caught myself slipping back into busyness, I took a few deep breaths and stopped immediately.

After a few weeks, I started noticing that slowing down actually speeds up the creative process. A slew of ideas and insights began to emerge. Decisions became obvious, thus easier to make. Opportunities abounded and I had the energy—and time—to grab them.

I invite you to observe all the needless activities you cram into your life—from constant emailing to extraneous chores. Maybe you’ll find what I did.

It’s only in stillness that you’ll hear the secrets your soul yearns to share. It’s only in the quiet that you’ll discover the path to becoming your best, more powerful self.

I’d love to hear what you could slowly start cutting out of your day? Leave me a comment below.

Filed under: Life Lessons , Rewiring , Success

Comments & Feedback

  • Sky

    Hi Barbara:

    Appreciated reading this piece … we are a culture of “doing” rather than “being.” I am naturally drawn to “being” and feel constantly pushed into “doing” by the rapid speed which everything moves.. it definitely effects my nervous system…. I hope to find my being ness in a world which places more emphasis on “doing”


  • Lisa

    I like what you wrote about forcing yourself to stare out a window 🪟. I finding having moments watching the world go by very relaxing and where I get my creative energy and life force from.

    I’ve taken the 1st week of August off to go to a tropical island 🏝 One of my New Years resolutions was to go to a place I’ve never been to before!

    I’m cutting out action adventure activities like jungle trekking and just focusing on walks along the beach, lazing by the pool reading books, long morning brunches – basically chilling and spacing out!

  • Julie

    As always, you give great “food for thought”. I have been on this same journey of less busyness and more down/”undoing” time. I have found, like you, that it’s a badge of honor for me, and I think I’m only valuable when I’m doing. But I’m doing that to myself (or repeating an old pattern of hearing someone tell me this). I have control over it now, and I’m doing myself a disservice when repeating that pattern. I love working, so I chalk it up to that. But that’s not the answer. Only in the “being” can we really hear/see/discover what we want and need. And then, like you said, so much more comes forward. The good stuff abounds. We have no one to prove it to, but ourselves

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When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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