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How Does One Become Wealthy? Part 3

According to success guru, Jack Canfield, “Everything you want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it.”

I thought of that quote when a woman, in one of my groups, recently posted: “Even though I say I want to create wealth, I keep signing up for more courses that kept putting me deeper in debt.”

I hear this all the time. Taking endless classes feels like you’re taking action, but it’s actually an act of self-deception. So I responded with a question: why don’t you want wealth?

When an unconscious desire—say, to conform to family patterns—is stronger than your spoken intention—to be wealthy—you’ll stop yourself at every turn.

You’ll water down your efforts, make misguided choices, and justify your actions with a variety of excuses. You may say, and believe, you want to be wealthy, but that’s not the message that’s reaching your brain.

There’s a story about two caterpillars that spy a butterfly high overhead. One turns to the other and says, ‘You’ll never get me up in one of those things!’

In many ways we’re like that caterpillar. We get a glimpse of what’s possible and immediately get cold feet. We may say we want something, but deep down, a muted voice is convincingly arguing, ‘No you don’t.’ 

I’d love to know if you’ve struggled with an internal conflict: part of you wants something, part of you doesn’t. Leave me a comment below.

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Comments & Feedback

  • Patricia Moore

    Hi Barbara, I struggle with the words “wealth” and “wealth management” as commonly used in our culture. To me, the very word(s) mean greed. I wish there were other words that would work. I want to have more than enough money so I can be the light I want to be in the world. I took seriously the religious teachings that said “money is the root of all evil,” and there are plenty of examples, especially today. Yet to have agency in this world, money is necessary. Money is a better word for me, as is currency. What are your thoughts? Yes, I am struggling, so I may not be your target market. I appreciate your work.

    • Lisa

      Hi Patricia,

      Try flipping it to freedom of choice, security and dignity management !

    • Barbara

      Oh Patricia, you are totally my target market. You have developed such negative associations with the word wealth. Where did those come from? I grew up in wealth but all I saw was tremendous generosity.
      Money itself is not evil. It’s what the person has it does with it. If only I could convince you to accumulate wealth and give it all away to help people you love and causes your passionate about, if that’s what you want while protecting your future. It’s not about the accumulation of riches…it’s about who you have to become, the powerful woman you were born to be, to create wealth.. I hate to see you so conflicted that you’re not living your life to the fullest. Simply put, wealth just means you have more than enough to live with generosity and peace of mind.

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When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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