Nothing gets in the way of financial success more than repressed anger.

In my experience, women in general hold a tremendous amount of unexpressed anger, though few realize it.

I certainly did but had no idea. Until a therapist pointed  out that I was carrying a lot of repressed rage, which was holding me hostage, making me unable to move forward.

As I worked on discharging my wrath, I had a revelation. Anger is simply energy. Repressed anger immobilizes. Released anger galvanizes.

When you find healthy ways to let go of resentment, you begin to notice a direct link between anger and power. Suppressing one inhibits expressing the other.

If you suspect you, too, may have some buried anger, I invite you to write an angry letter. Write it to your parents or ex-husband or maybe yourself. Write it by hand, not on a computer.

When you’re finished, burn the letter. As you watch it burn, say to your anger: “Thank you. You served me once. I no longer need you. I release you. Now I am free.”

Or try physically moving it out of your body. Slap the wall hard with a towel. Go outside and vigorously hurl ice cubes at the street. Dance out your anger to heavy metal music.

What if you’ve done anger releasing exercises ad nauseum, and damn it, you’re still angry?

Ask yourself this question: What is my payoff for holding onto angerWhy don’t I want to let it go?

Believe me, the anger is giving you something. Usually, it’s a false or cheap sense of power, invulnerability, and autonomy.

When you finally free yourself, something incredible happens. You are able to forgive and move on. You’ll be amazed how much lighter you feel and how much easier life becomes.

When you ask yourself, “Who do I need to forgive?” what comes up for you? I’d love to hear. Leave me a comment below.

Comments & Feedback

  • Anne Wallace

    I love this post.

    I notice that it’s scary to face the wide-open possibilities created by releasing the rage tying me to the past and to others’ actions. What if I’m inadequate to manifest my vision? If I can’t live up to it or fail?

    • barbara huson

      Yes, it’s scary, Anne. But one thing I know for sure…you are NEVER given a vision, without the ability to make it happen….IF you are willing to go where you fear! You can do this!

  • Darla Morrison

    Barbara, you have hit the nail on the head. I love your books and how you are so open to share your experience with others. There is so much truth in your statement “released anger galvanizes” . Being free from anger and resentment frees up room to make better choices. Fear always holds you back. The way we see money has deep roots in the psychological not the financial.
    Thank you for the ways you help women to move past the misconceptions to a higher level of living. You are a wonderful leader!

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When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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