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Does It Ever Get Easier?

I’ve begun another journey. And I’m wondering: do the first steps ever get easier?

A few years ago, I birthed a new body of work:  ReWIRE: Mind Training for Wealth + Well-Being, combining neuroscience with personal finance. Last week I finally finished the book proposal.

My agent is shopping it around. Even after writing 7 books, I have to say: beginnings are a bitch. Let me tell you why. Perhaps you can relate. 

We rarely feel certain that we’re actually ready to begin. If anything, beginnings are a disturbing blend of excitement and fear, optimism and despair. (What if every publisher rejects me? What if I still need to learn more, be better prepared?)

And beginnings are scary. In order to start one thing, you have to let go of something else. For me, I’ve had to stop giving workshops and retreats in subjects I know and love to find the time for studying a brand new subject.  

Beginnings are also frustrating. They are full of interruptions and false starts. I began working on my proposal last summer. But fear, resistance, and various distractions kept delaying my progress.  I kept worrying I wasn’t doing it right, that I’d never finish. 

Yet beginnings can’t be rushed. They must emerge. The key is to stay focused but surrender control, allowing one thing to lead to another. For example, I spent months trying to find just the right agent. I’d been spoiled by my old one—a razor sharp editor—who’d quit the biz.  As I’m about to give up hope, I find out she’s back. And she whipped my proposal into shape, just as it needed.

Now I wait. Will my baby find a good home? Beginnings are mired in uncertainty. Then I read this on social media: “Be okay with not knowing for sure what might come next, but know that whatever it is, you’ll be ok.”  

And I sigh with relief! It may never get easier. Yet I know, I’ll be fine, regardless of the results.

How do you handle the beginnings in your life? Join the conversation here.

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Comments & Feedback

  • Julie Bruns

    Thanks Barbara! This is just what I needed to hear as I begin to launch my side business and count the minutes until it’s just my only business. I am making progress but it’s the fear that keeps me from pushing on. I know in my heart that it will probably make me more successful and wealthy than I’ve ever been, but then there’s always that part of you that doubts it. I can make it happen and I will!

    • barbara huson

      I hear you, Julie and I can totally relate. That fear never goes away…at least for me or the thousands of successful women I’ve interviewed. The key, I’ve learned, is to feel the fear but NOT let it stop you!!! You absolutely can make your biz a success, despite all the self doubt!!! Good luck!

  • Pam

    Is it coincidence that as I typed the word “Beginnings” in this post my finger slipped and the iPhone perceieved I typed “Ego”? I think not. Ego and perfectionism keep me i the terminal while take-off and first class are waiting for me to take my seat.

    • barbara huson

      Oh Pam, that’s hysterical…and quite an apt metaphor. I love it! Thanks for sharing it with me. Yep, it’s definitely time to take your first class seat!!!!

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Meet Barbara Huson

When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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