Could You Be Asking the Wrong Question?  

Feeling stuck? Confused? Weighed down with worry?  If you’re like most people, you’re probably asking yourself the wrong question. And wondering why you’re not making progress.

Try this. Stop wondering: “What should I do?  and start asking yourself: “What do I need to let go of?”  

Letting Go is a powerful strategy few people fully appreciate.  When you pinpoint what’s holding you back, and are willing to let it go, miracles occur.  But be warned.  The very thing you need to let go of will be the very thing you’re most afraid to give up.

Here’s an example of what can happen when you ask yourself this powerful question.

Dee called me, desperate to get out of debt. As we talked, it became apparent. Dee’s house was more than she could afford. But she couldn’t bear to let it go.  

Her home was her sanctuary, a quiet retreat, tucked away in a leafy, little village, worlds away a from all the hustle-bustle of the big city. She never locked her doors. Her closest friends were her neighbors. How could she ever let it go?   

Yet it was painfully clear—her best way out of debt was to sell. It broke her heart, but it was the right thing to do. The moment she made the decision to sell, the miracles began.  

She’d just sat down to write a newspaper ad when there was a knock on the door.  A man introduced himself as the father of her next-door neighbor. He wondered if, by any chance, she’d consider selling her house.

Dee’s jaw dropped, but she kept her cool. They closed the deal that very day, for $15,000 above what would’ve been her asking price. And the man paid cash (yes, a big wad of cash, which went to her creditors and the rest into savings)

Dee misses her house, but the relief in her voice was palpable. In fact, she was surprisingly excited about the houses available in her price range.

Let Dee’s experience inspire you.  Letting go creates space for something better to come.  

What do you need to let go of? Are you ready to take the leap and watch what happens? Leave me a comment below.

Comments & Feedback

  • Rebecca Dunlap

    I wish it were as simple as a house. I need to let go of my son, my only child, because he is draining me financially and emotionally. He was homeless and now has an apartment and is still so negative. I lost my husband last year after years of caring for him with a handicap and then dementia, and I was hoping to make a new life for myself, but I feel again at the mercy of someone else.

    • barbara huson

      My heart goes out to you, Rebecca. I feel your pain. I’m going through something similar with my youngest…and it is causing me intense anguish. I went into therapy because of my grief and I can’t tell you how much it’s helping. I’d love it if you could get some help too. You deserve to a better life!!! I’m praying for you!

    • Lisa


      I’m sorry for your loss.

      No, no no! You can’t continue to keep looking after your adult son. However, maybe, you can get someone else to help look after him. He sounds like he might be depressed. Depression feeds negative thoughts. An excellent therapist or happiness coach might be able to rewire his negative thoughts and get him on an exciting life plan.

  • Lisa

    The “art of letting go” (surrender)is one of the hardest things I’ve had to learn during my 16 years of transformation work.

    I need to let go of a casual friend I’ve known over the last 7-8 years. We are completely different people, however it’s never bothered me before, because we were only casual friends. Her inflated sense of entitlement and need for others to take care of her like an infant irks me a little bit. It’s going to get ugly if I cling on.

    We had a few really fun times together, so I guess that memory what makes it really hard for me to let go, but I know I’ll be opening up time for what really matters and something new!

  • barbara huson

    Lisa, I feel like you’re getting close to severing the ties…and you’ll let her go when you’re ready. Good luck!

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When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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