I spent most of my adult life desperately trying to figure out finances. I dutifully went to classes, read books, talked to advisors. Nothing helped.
And then I began journaling about my experience. That’s when I had a realization that, I know now, began the rewiring process in my brain and I finally began to breakthrough my formidable blocks.
That realization led me to create a fundamentally different approach to empowering women financially—the approach I now call the Rewire Process.
I realized that traditional financial education focused almost exclusively on the practical facts. And in too many cases, it still does today.
But my experience taught me that when the facts don’t make sense and all of the practical knowledge makes no difference, the key may be hidden inside you.
As I wrote in my journal, I heard that familiar voice in my head telling me how stupid I was. But instead of letting that voice hold sway, as I always had, I decided to get to know it better. I asked the voice where it came from and what it wanted.
Memories from when I was young began bubbling up. Whenever I asked about money, my father just said, “Don’t worry,” and my mother would reply: “I don’t know. Ask your father.”
Naturally, I concluded that managing money was a man’s job and I, a girl, would botch things up badly if I tried to take charge.
As my beloved Course in Miracles pointed out, “If we seek something we’re afraid of, attainment of it won’t be what you really want.”
Suddenly my difficulties made sense. Deep down I didn’t really want to deal with money. My fear of loss was stronger than my desire to learn. Once I realized the source of my resistance, my struggle abated and life changed dramatically.
I have come to understand, so clearly, that when personal insight is coupled with financial understanding, a powerful alchemy occurs. Unproductive habits give way to enlightened choices.
What can you learn from that voice in your head? Tell me in the comments below.