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A Valentine Letter to My Money

My dearest Money,

Happy Valentines Day to the most perfect lover I could ever imagine. You have served, supported and protected me so beautifully as I’ve grown older. And for that, I owe you my deepest gratitude.

But I admit it wasn’t always that way. Consider this my long overdue apology.

I know I haven’t made it easy for us to be together. For years, I neglected you. You seemed so confusing and frightening. Sure, I tried to get to know you, but I always got scared and gave up.

When you finally left, it was a devastating blow. Yet it was also a gift.

During our separation, I realized how much I wanted you to love and take care of me. But I also realized, for that to happen, I had to love and take care of you too.

You needed to feel understood. You needed to feel valued. You needed to feel respected and appreciated. Instead, I had ignored you.

And I realized, as in all relationships, there are good times and bad. But bad times were not the time to turn my back and throw in the towel. At least not if we were to grow old together.

So, I sought help. I plumbed my psyche to figure out why I pushed you away. And I studied everything I could to learn all about you.

And now, here we are, decades later, stronger, more secure than ever.

I learned an important lesson that I want to share with anyone in a troubled financial relationship:

When you give money the love and respect it requires by taking good care of it, you both will live happily ever after…for all the days of your life.

What are you doing to make sure your money feels your love? Leave me a comment below.

Comments & Feedback

  • Lisa

    Dear money,

    I’m going to make an appointment with an accountant to see if starting my own company will help us write of espenses so I don’t have to spend you! Love ya money 💴 Without you, I’d be miserable!

  • Morgan

    Dear money,
    Through you I have learned to value myself. I used to loan you whenever people asked me to, but those folks didn’t pay you back to me! 😔
    Through you I learned how to say No, which felt selfish at first, but with time felt fabulous because I began to value myself…and others started to value me, too. It took many years– it wasn’t overnight at all. Because of these experiences with you, I had to learn how to forgive those debtors and move forward.

    • barbara huson

      This is soooooooo good, Morgan!!! Big lesson to learn…well done!

    • Lisa

      Hi Morgan,

      I’ve also learned, through money, that you don’t lend friends money, you give it to them. Maybe, they once looked after you or gave you the shirt off their back when they had nothing and now they’re struggling – that’s a time to give without any expectation of return.

      Constantly giving money creates a strange power dynamic in the friendship. Better to give anonymously if you can. Also, if someone begins to constantly ask you for cash, expects you to always pay for things, or tries to sell or market you something that sounds that a scam, that person has now lost respect for you and your money, or is battling some kind of addiction! The friendship was good, but has now run it’s course!

  • Olivia

    I love your love letter to money. What a brilliant idea…. of course it comes from you! I will write one myself and hopefully change my ways, though I have been doing much better recently.
    Thank you.
    always with appreciation for your gifts to us all, (I did your Overcoming under -earning in New York while with MamaGena in 2007… what a time that was too!)


    • barbara huson

      Thanks so much for your sweet comments, Olivia. Oh how I miss that mastery room. And you were in one of my earliest OU live workshops. I really appreciate you showing up here!!

  • Amy Archer

    Thank you so much, Barbara. You are one of your readers’ favorite Valentine’s if I had to guess.

  • barbara huson

    Awwwww, that’s so sweet of you Amy. It’s so great to hear from you! Hope you’re doing well. Sending big hugs xo

  • Audrey

    Dear Barbara,

    Thank you for sharing your letter. This made a huge impact on me. I know at the heart of my relationship with money is fear. You can’t have a good relationship if there is fear. I am ‘paying attention’ to my money this weekend and promise to keep doing so. Thank you again.

    • barbara huson

      Thank YOU, Audrey, for your wise comment. I’m really touched that it made an impact on you. And you’re right, fear contaminates all relationships…including money! But if you can bring love and appreciation into the equation, you’ll eventually override fear and start truly feeling the love for your money, which it will ultimately return all that love back to you!!!

  • Daniela

    Your words are truly inspiring to me.Thank you Barbara
    Dear Money,

    I ask your forgiveness for considering you the culprit for loosing my grandparents and father in my childhood when during communism the fortune was confiscated creating illness and death in our family
    I want to open my heart to you and leave in joy and respect one with the other .I chose to see you as a force for joy and goodness in this world .
    I love you and thank you

    • barbara huson

      Daniela, I have to say, reading what you wrote broke my heart! I’m sorry for what you went through. But I can feel that you’ve grown and gotten much strength from your experiences…and this letter to money is positively beautiful! Thank you!

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Meet Barbara Huson

When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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