The Feminine Face of Power

Written by Barbara Huson

I wish men better understood the feminine face of power. I believe they are as afraid of our power as we are!

One high earner may have nailed it when she told me, “I think men are afraid that if you give a woman too much power, we’ll skewer them in public one day.”

Men need to know we’re not seeking domination for ourselves, submission from them, or any form of retribution. That’s not how we roll.

We want to share power, not usurp it. We want power “with,” not power “over.”

You Say You Want More Money, But…

Written by Barbara Huson

If intentions are so powerful, why don’t they always pan out? What if you swear you want to make more money? Your intent is sincere, your desire is strong, but try as you might, your paycheck remains paltry.

If this is the case, it’s for this reason:

You get what you want, not what you ask for.

The distinction is critical.

We all have numerous intentions. Many we aren’t even aware of. You run into trouble when your expressed goals are at odds with your unconscious desires.

When a buried intention—say, to stay safe or be comfortable—is stronger than your spoken one—to be profitable—you’ll stop yourself at every turn.

If you’re not getting it, for whatever reason, chances are, unconsciously, you may not want it. This is why the inner work is so critical.

You must dig a little deeper to make sure that…

your declared intention is an authentic reflection of who you are and what you want
conflicting intentions aren’t inadvertently impeding your progress
your intent to profit doesn’t run counter to the way you were raised, the role you’ve assumed, or the beliefs you embrace.

Can you identify the intentions that are keeping you from getting what you say you want? Leave me a comment below.

The Downside of Personal Growth

Written by Barbara Huson

Have you noticed that whenever you change, you’re sure to upset someone close to you? Usually someone who’s resisting moving forward themselves. It could be a spouse, a parent, or a friend.

It happened to me with my second husband. I was an aspiring journalist when we met, sorely underpaid, but with lots of free time. Three months after the wedding, I decided to focus on building a profitable business.

He didn’t like this ‘new me’ one bit. It eventually led to our divorce.

At first I was crushed. But when I started interviewing six-figure women for my second book, it hit me.

To go to the next level financially, I had to surround myself with people who were cheering me on, not trying to rein me in.

Where Success Hides

Written by Barbara Huson

For years, whenever my daughters felt stuck or confused, they’d always call me for advice.

“What are you most afraid to do?” I’d ask every time.

They’d tell me and inevitably I’d reply: “Then that’s exactly what you need to do next.”

They didn’t like my response, of course, but when they followed it, they always met with success.

Nowadays, they don’t even bother asking. They finally realized what every successful woman I’ve ever interviewed eventually figured out.

GRRRRRRRRRR…..

Written by Barbara Huson

Nothing gets in the way of financial success more than repressed anger.

In my experience, women in general hold a tremendous amount of unexpressed anger, though few realize it.

I certainly did but had no idea. Until a therapist pointed out that I was carrying a lot of repressed rage, which was holding me hostage, making me unable to move forward.

As I worked on discharging my wrath, I had a revelation. Anger is simply energy. Repressed anger immobilizes. Released anger galvanizes.

When you find healthy ways to let go of resentment, you begin to notice a direct link between anger and power. Suppressing one inhibits expressing the other.

If you suspect you, too, may have some buried anger, I invite you to write an angry letter. Write it to your parents or ex-husband or maybe yourself. Write it by hand, not on a computer.

Dare to Streeeeetch

Written by Barbara Huson

The philosopher Soren Kierkegaard once declared, “To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily; to not dare is to lose one’s self.”

To achieve financial success, you must make a tough choice—stick with what’s doable or dare to take the more demanding route.

Basically, this is how the high earning game is played—stretching beyond comfortable to the seemingly impossible.

Almost always, stretching is preceded by the thought, “I can’t do that” or “it’s too scary.”

The High Earner’s Epiphany

Written by Barbara Huson

I’ll never forget a conversation I once had with a former underearner. She told me that in every job she’d had, she found out she was underpaid and would always quit.

Finally, she was in a job she loved. Once again, she discovered she was making far less than a co-worker in the same position. But this time, she really didn’t want to leave.

Though terrified, she worked up the nerve and asked her boss for a raise.

“Sure” he said, without missing a beat.

At that moment, she had a stunning realization. I’ve come to call it the High Earners Epiphany.

Problems? Show Some Gratitude!

Written by Barbara Huson

People often ask me what were the biggest surprises I had when interviewing successful women. This is definitely one.

I never expected how many told me they were actually grateful for past tribulations.

In fact, most admitted, they might never have succeeded had they not been challenged. They considered their past problems an asset and, even more, they appreciated themselves for tackling them head on.

Always Say Yes!

Written by Barbara Huson

Just say yes! Whether it’s to your heart’s desire or your boss’s request.

So what if you don’t know what you’re doing.

The quickest way to become a High Earner is not to wait until all bases are covered or for opportunities to fall at your feet, but to go out and consciously seek them.

There’s only one way to reach those higher levels—you go as far as you can with all that you’ve got, and when you fall down, you pick yourself up and keep right on going.

Don’t Believe You Can Make More Money? Doesn’t Matter!

Written by Barbara Huson

Want to know an important secret to making more money? Certainty, or lack of it, is inconsequential.

You don’t need to be convinced you can do it. You need only be open and receptive to the possibility.

So many of high earners I interviewed, when the thought of making big money first crossed their minds, never really believed they could actually do it.

Nor did they know precisely how they would add another zero or two. In fact, most hadn’t the vaguest idea.

Which is exactly how I, a chronic underearner, always felt. One of the most hopeful messages I learned from successful women is that we need not fully believe something is possible, much less have a full-blown plan firmly in place.

We just have to decide what we want and be willing to do whatever comes next.

Success

The Feminine Face of Power

You Say You Want More Money, But…

The Downside of Personal Growth

Where Success Hides

GRRRRRRRRRR…..

Dare to Streeeeetch

The High Earner’s Epiphany

Problems? Show Some Gratitude!

Always Say Yes!

Don’t Believe You Can Make More Money? Doesn’t Matter!

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