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What Do Dollars & Donuts Have in Common?

I’ve long noticed an interesting fact. Women who have problems with money often have problems with food.

Then I read Geneen Roth’s extraordinary book, Women, Food and God, a New York Time’s bestseller. I’ve never met Geneen personally. But I instantly knew she was a kindred spirit.

Geneen insists that food is never the problem. Just as I’ve always known problems with money are never about money.

Rather, says Geneen, overeating is “a doorway to your true nature,” echoing my conviction that financial problems are a doorway to your true power.

Her book is based on her own unhealthy relationship with food and her experience teaching others what she learned during her weekend retreats. Just like my books are based on overcoming my own devastating dealings with money and helping others do the same.

Her method of healing women’s relationship with food, similar to mine, mixes a hefty dose of spirituality with emotional transparency and practical actions.

The key to success is not to focus on dieting…or budgeting. The key is combining self-awareness exercises with specific practices to heal the deep-seated wounds that lead to compulsive behaviors, like over-eating or binge spending.

In fact, my favorite quote of all time came from Geneen: 

The only people who don’t have insane relationships with money are those who were willing to examine their insane relationship with money.

Have you thought about what you’re trying to fill up with compulsive behaviors—whether with food or money issues? Tell me about it in the comments below.

Comments & Feedback

  • Barbara Alpher

    I read one of Geneen’s books years ago. I think it was her first. At the time I was studying both food and money issues. Both areas are still areas of study, but gratefully, at a different level from the one so many years ago. It’s really a study of self and self growth. Actually the study of spirituality has gone right along with the food and money. It’s an on-going process and is what keeps life interesting.

    • barbara huson

      You’re so right, Barbara…it’s really an ongoing study of your self and your growth! And spirituality is like the lynch pin that brings it all together. Thanks for your insight.

  • Lisa

    I have to be careful, because I know I’m a “novelty eater”. If it’s new and looks exciting, I want to try eating it, even if I’m not hungry.

    It’s generational and societal. My mom got excited during the 80’s and would bring home the latest, colorful breakfast cereal 🥣 or food product. My best friends mom knew better than to eat that crap, because she was a registered nurse, so my bestie would come over to my place to binge on the latest goodies.

    I keep a list on my iPhone every time to jot down when I’m tempted to eat something that’s not nutrient dense.

    Going up clothing sizes is a temporary solution, not a permanent fix. Obesity shouldn’t be glamorized.

    • barbara huson

      Good awareness, Lisa! I get it that stuff that’s new, colorful, usually loaded with sugar can be incredibly tempting…but oh, going up a size in clothes just isn’t worth it. I think that’s a great idea to write down when you’re tempted…so you don’t have to act on it! Thanks.

  • Leigh

    I had a really severe compulsive overeating problem when I was much younger and Geneen Roth’s “Overcoming Emotional Eating” came across my radar. I am now in recovery from the eating issues (ever watchful for repeat patterns coming back) but I never equated my overeating with my financial difficulties, which have also been with me for the same length of time. My weight has gone up and down through the years and I have peaked at “going up” and will be on my way back down towards my target weight, which I have never reached. Ditto for my bank accounts. That is still a work in progress and I know it’s an inner game more than anything else. My brain still can’t handle success or my thinness, I think.

    • Lisa

      Hi Leigh,

      Do you know what triggered your emotional eating?

      On a less serious note, my grandparents used to praise me , pat me on the head and tell me I was a good girl for finishing all my food. It would be impossible for anyone to be anorexic in our family.

    • barbara huson

      I saw this same yo-yo pattern with former underearners I interviewed, Leigh. The problem was lack of or wobbly boundaries. Once they established good boundaries in their life, their weight and finances stabilized. I was fascinated by this. Have you read my book, Overcoming Underearning, where I talk about this phenomenon?

  • barbara huson

    I saw this same yo-yo pattern with former underearners I interviewed, Leigh. The problem was lack of or wobbly boundaries. Once they established good boundaries in their life, their weight and finances stabilized. I was fascinated by this. Have you read my book, Overcoming Underearning, where I talk about this phenomenon?

Meet Barbara Huson

When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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