What do Money & Food Have in Common?

Written by Barbara Huson

I’ve long noticed that women who have problems with money often have problems with food.

Then I read Geneen Roth’s extraordinary book, Women Food and God, a New York Time’s bestseller. She confirmed my suspicion. I’ve never met Geneen personally, but I consider her a kindred spirit.

She insists that food is never the problem, just as I know problems with money are never about money.

Rather, says Geneen, overeating is “a doorway to your true nature,” echoing my belief that “financial problems are a doorway to your true power.”

Roth’s book, like my Sacred Success®, is based on her own unhealthy relationship with food and her experience teaching others what she learned during her weekend retreats. Her method of healing women’s relationship with food, similar to mine, mixes a hefty dose of spirituality with practical action and emotional transparency.

The key to success is not to focus exclusively on dieting…or budgeting. Instead, success comes from following a process that includes self-awareness exercises and specific practices to help women step into their power and overcome the urge to self-sabotage and other compulsive behaviors, like chronic busyness, over eating, binge spending.

In fact, my favorite quote of all time is a quote from Geneen which I saw on Facebook: “The only people who don’t have insane relationships with money are those who were willing to examine their insane relationship with money.”

Gosh, I wish I had said that!

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Just Keep Me Safe…Pleeeeeeease!

Written by Barbara Huson

It’s tempting to keep all your money in cash because it seems so safe, right? After all, it’s guaranteed by the government. However, you’ll never build wealth when you’re losing money to inflation.

Stocks, on the other hand, feel so risky. Most of us, including the dictionary, see risk as “the possibility of loss.” But as smart investors know, risk is an opportunity for gain.

In fact, the biggest risk you take, as a woman, is not that the market will go down. Because it will. It always does. But it also always goes up.

The biggest risk that you and I take is that we will OUTLIVE our money…that our purchasing power, like a wool sweater in a hot dryer, will shrink over time.

So at least a portion of our money must be invested in assets that grow faster than inflation and taxes take it away.

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The World’s Simplest Savings Plan

Written by Barbara Huson

Let me see a show of hands. How many of you promised yourself you’re going to save more. You really want to. But your savings remains minimal to non-existent.

I can understand if your hand went up. It’s easy to say that you’ll move money to savings but in practice, it often doesn’t happen. You forget; you overspend; you have a hundred excuses.

But that’s because you haven’t discovered the simple secret to amassing significant savings…easily, mindlessly.

Automate.

Every month, have your bank automatically transfer a certain amount of money (no matter how small) from your checking account to your savings account. All you have to do is fill out a form and it’s done. So simple.

What I love about this—you don’t miss what you don’t see.

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Pay Yourself First

Written by Barbara Huson

In 1926, George Clausen, publisher of the first road atlas of the United States, wrote a slim volume of parables about Babylonia, once the wealthiest city in the world. The Richest Man in Babylon has become a modern classic that some people, including me, consider among the best finance books ever written.

When we first meet the richest man in Babylon, he is telling friends the secret to his fortune.
“I found the road to wealth,” he tells them, “when I decided that a part of all I earn is mine to keep.” The men look at him incredulously.

“Is that all?” one asks, insisting that of course everything he makes is his to keep.

The wealthy man just shakes his head. “You fool, you pay everyone but yourself,” he cries, pointing to the clothing sellers, sandal makers, and wine merchants. Instead, the rich man counsels them, pay yourself first. “For every 10 coins thou places in thy purse, take out for use but nine.”

This is the way of the wealth builders. They pay themselves first, knowing that a part of all they earn goes into their personal savings on a regular basis.

Are you living that way?

How Do You Know When You’re Really RICH?

Written by Barbara Huson

Here’s an interesting question. How much money does it take to be rich? What would you say?

Of course, you may argue, there’s more to being rich than having money—there’s love, health, freedom, etc. All true. But for the purpose of research, let’s stick with a specific figure. How much money do you think you need to feel rich?

Despite a myriad of studies, no one can agree on a single number. The responses range from a mere $1.4 million to a whopping $100 million…and everything in between.

One thing that struck me. The amount is always more than the respondent had. As one researcher put it, “People always give a number that is twice their current net worth or income. Those with $100,000 in income say $200,000, while those worth $5 million say $10 million.”

This got me thinking. There’s no universal number because ‘rich’ is an attitude, not an amount. When you can say “I have enough to live my life on my own terms,” you can, indeed, call yourself rich.

The Real Meaning of “Risk”

Written by Barbara Huson

Ask a novice investor to define risk, and most will say losing money. They look at market fluctuations and all they see is the likelihood of loss.

An educated investor, however, looks at those same market fluctuations and sees opportunity for gain.

The truth is, our biggest financial risk is not market volatility. Our biggest risk is to do nothing at all.

Sure the market’s ups and downs are scary. But you can dramatically cut your losses with due diligence, a long term approach, and good diversification.

On the other hand, if all your cash is sitting in the bank, your purchasing power will shrink like a wool sweater in a hot dryer.

At least a portion of your savings needs to be in assets that grow faster than inflation and taxes eat it away.

Otherwise your greatest risk, as a woman, is that you’ll outlive your money.

Spending Exercise: Part 1

Written by Barbara Huson

Here’s a powerful exercise to get clarity on your finances as well as your quality of life. For at least a month, track your spending.

In a small notebook or empty checkbook register, write down every single penny you spend. Whether you pay cash, check, or credit, write down the item and the amount.

If you forget to jot some things down, don’t let that be an excuse to quit. Just start again and record each expense.

As you do this, notice what you’re buying, how you’re feeling at the moment, and any other observations you may have. Also notice how your spending patterns reflect your values and priorities. The question is, do you like what you see?

Be Done With Debt!

Written by Barbara Huson

Over the years, I’ve witnessed an inverse correlation between earnings and debt. As debt goes down, income increases. And vice versa.

Perhaps it’s because, as one person explained, “Now that I’m not worrying about how I’ll pay my bills, it’s like I’ve freed up all this energy to be so much more creative, strategic and successful in my career.”

Want more success? Tear up your credit cards and start paying them off. Then watch what happens!

Problems Are Your Starting Points

Written by Barbara Huson

Financial achievement is often preceded by a financial challenge. Problems have a purpose. They’re trying to get our attention.

The place to begin is admitting what’s not working in your life. It could be anything from bankruptcy or burn out; from feeling undervalued or overworked; from getting a divorce, or desperately wanting one.

No matter how subtle, how small, or how sizable and scary, your willingness to face the problem head on the first step to breaking through it.

Facing a problem means looking it straight in the eye, even if you haven’t a clue what to do about it…especially if you haven’t a clue. Face it without shame blame or judgment. Face it even without a solution in sight.

6 Things To Do Before Your Spouse Dies – Part 1

Written by Barbara Huson

I heard from a woman whose husband was just diagnosed with terminal cancer. Her question to me: What should a woman do before her husband dies?

My heart went out to her, along with my admiration. Instead of going into denial, she went into action. Death is not easy to talk about, let alone prepare for. What would you do in her situation? After all, most women will face a similar dilemma at some point.

I’ll never forget, when my father got ill, I went to my mother. “Do you know what Daddy has planned for you when he dies?” I asked.

“Oh yes,” she replied quickly, but when I pressed her for details, she couldn’t tell me. She also made it abundantly clear: this was not a conversation she wanted to have. I made it even clearer: avoidance was not an option. Here’s what we did:

1. We had “the talk.” I had my Mom sit down with my Dad and we looked at all the financial documents: bank statements, investments, estate planning, etc. This was not, by any means, an easy conversation. Dealing with death is emotionally excruciating, at least it was for us. Nerves were frayed. My Mom glazed over. My Dad lost patience. I kept scratching my wrist (a nervous habit) until it bled. But by the end, my Mom knew where every penny was and what arrangements he had made… and hadn’t made.

2. We assembled “ the team.” My Dad was very much a do-it-yourselfer. I wanted my Mom to have her own team of professionals to support and guide her (during and after). First on our list was to hire an estate lawyer… we found one (through my sister). Mom, my sisters and I met with him first, brought in my father, and together my parents created a very good, tax efficient estate plan… which my Mom not only understood, but had a big role in creating.

3. We updated documents. We made sure the Will, Power of Attorney, EVERYTHING reflected their latest info and current wishes.

As I said, not an easy process. Sadly, many of us will go through this. But being prepared, financially, will make it a little easier.

In my next post, I’ll list the final 3 steps you need to take, to prepare yourself. Stay tuned.

Barbara Stanny

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What do Money & Food Have in Common?

Just Keep Me Safe…Pleeeeeeease!

The World’s Simplest Savings Plan

Pay Yourself First

How Do You Know When You’re Really RICH?

The Real Meaning of “Risk”

Spending Exercise: Part 1

Be Done With Debt!

Problems Are Your Starting Points

6 Things To Do Before Your Spouse Dies – Part 1

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